February 21, 2020

Great Message For All Singles

GREAT MESSAGE FOR ALL SINGLES

Hello Single ladies/guy who are used to doing awwnnn awnnn awwnnn to other people's relationship. Those who enjoyed other peoples relationship thriller videos on snapchat and twitter😂😂.

I just want to tell you to Love yourself darling.
Great message for all Singles

I know you must have heard this countless time but its really a big deal and thing to pay cognisance to if you want to succeed in your relationship and marriage.
Don't go into relationship and marriage just to escape from yourself  or because you're lonely or because you want to complete yourself or because my friends are in relationship.. Hell No

Love yourself and love being you and love being with you😉.  Then you won't just accept anyone who comes your way with stories. If you love yourself, you won't  be in an haste, you'll take your time to choose the best life partner for yourself.

Lot of people who sent DM from their words, they made mistakes in marrying people who turned out not to be a good person and they saw the signs while they were dating.. but you know what??
It's because they thought this person will change, the salient truth is that deep down they didn't love themselves enough to realized that they deserved better.

Your Singleness is a gift because you have the power to choose right. All you get to do, is get the reasonable standards and criteria to look for and sit back and relax..

Sex is not all married people do oo.. there are more and more to marriage. There is lot to know than the sex act, equip yourself to the task ahead so it won't be rush in and rush out thing.

Now you can take the time to do, so its critically important you get it right now. Now that you're single. You got to be properly single (learning lot of things at every spheres) before you can be properly married.

A must Read:
What Ladies That Prefer Married Men Should Know.

Don't be swap away by Aso Ebi loading from friends or proposal from that your social media followers.
Your life is different, same with your relationship life.. Say no to comparison. If you do then you're running another man race in which when your real partner is ready self you don help another person waka go..
Watch it, and get some sense..

Don't force any relationship simply because you're tired being single... or friends are getting married. Or love the idea of marriage.  I have lot of ladies, they will visit/ login to ring empire and continually download proposal rings, visit asoebi bella page and be watching videooo..
😂😂sister you will be tempted to give someone who doesn't know your worth a tryy.
Some people go into unknown hands because they are not getting younger, because my younger sister or brother is in relationship or married.

Go into relationship with your eyes wide open knowing fully well that the decision you make about a life partner will affect every other area of your life( good or bad)

Your Singleness is a gift to you.. it's a season of life that is crucial to your destiny. A person readiness to date is largely a matter of maturity and environment.
You're not ready to date until you're fully aware of both the benefits and dangers of dating.
Healthy relationship should always begin at the spiritual and intellectual level.. the level of purpose, motivation, interests, dreams and personality.

If you feel that you need a date in order to be complete or  fulfilled personally.. You're not ready to be in relationship.
Most people enter relationship with some sense of incompleteness or inadequacy..  know your worth, nobody will complete you if you enter that relationship.
You're ready to date when you have first learned how to be single.. so love this phase.
Great message for all Singles

*The time you're most prepared for dating is when you don't need anyone to complete you, fulfill you , or instill  in you a sense of worth or purpose.*
💥Build your relationship with God the father.

💥Do something with your single years_ find your purpose and walk/work in it.

💥Find course to take about marriage/relationship and other things you love.

💥Gain knowledge in the things you love even in the things you don't know how to do(nobody to bother you/ to give you nagging attitudes oo, or say so you can't call me since morning oo😂😂, that will give you an headache, learn courses online ICT, funnel training and advertisement and lot)

💥Build friendship and partnerships., don't just sit down in your room all day, expecting angel to direct partner your way, abi send manner of fine girls from above.. just be social, go on dates , meet new people online and offline, then discern wisely.

💥Do some volunteer services.. whatever you love that will add value to your life darling.

Powerful Article For Singles;Read 
WHAT SINGLES SHOULD KNOW BEFORE RELATIONSHIP
Singleness is a blessing and a perfect opportunity for character development. Learn to become an asset first. True Singleness is a sign of spiritual and emotional maturity. When you can be alone and enjoy it.. You're a self confident and self aware person.

So don't ever become so preoccupied by who you want that you forget to be who you're.
Build your self well in your single days, it will tell in your dating phase.. because the habits and attitudes established during the dating years are generally carry over into marriage..
To wrap it up here..
All I'm saying today is ENJOY YOUR SINGLENESS.  One day you will glad you did.

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February 11, 2020

What Ladies That Prefer Married Men Should Know.

What Ladies That Prefer Married Men should Know.

What ladies that prefer married men should know

To the Ladies, that prefer married men.

You know exactly HE is married but you keep on Dating him..

You're the reason the Wife can't sleep at night waiting for her husband to come home..

You're the reason her children don't have a proper bond with their father..

You're the reason she cries every night..

You're the reason she ain't getting the Love making she deserves anymore..

You're the reason He is no longer buying some grocery for his family..

Some of you even go as far as visiting his house and having sex on his matrimonial bed..

Now, you wonder why things are not going well on your side? You ain't bewitched and God doesn't hate you.. It's simply because you're already blessing yourself with a married Man.

The same man who vowed In the name of God to love and cherish his Wife in sickness and in health, until death do them apart.

If he can't let go of you, be bold to report to his wife.. Whenever he calls you, exhibit ignominy and fecklessness. Tell him, "you're married.. Go encounter with your wife" Believe me, he will never attempt to flirt with you again!

Must Read for Singles;
False Standards For Finding A Partner.

Be Conscious about what you do. You belittled yourself when you fall victim of their deceit, because you are pretty aware there's nothing meaningful that can sprout out between you and that same man, he will use you for the little time and leave. And remember him being in your life will decline you of many blessings, your God sent man won't locate you, you might be flexing and waxing in luxury, but it won't last and you may later live to regret it.

Be Vigilant, Conscious and Careful.
#Karma_Exist
Must Read For Everyone:
HOW TO KNOW AN AMBITIOUS PARTNER IN RELATIONSHIP

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January 13, 2020

How To Understand Your Woman

HOW TO UNDERSTAND YOUR WOMAN.

Got to realize something that is more expedient and helps that relationship/marriage to avoid shipwreck..

You will agree with me that, the female gender carry most of the relationship responsibilities and so on, I mean if you want a stability and your woman is in agreement with it, trust me that shit gonna work well. And if it's the other way round, women know how to turn and scatter it..

So to make it work out well and to make things slide on smoothly in that marriage, there is a need to understand that woman herself. 
How To Understànd Your Woman

A Must Read For Partners;
Potential Pillars That Stabilises Relationship/Marriage

1. Many men make the mistake of wanting their wives/women to be like them, forgetting we were not created with the same raw materials. A man was formed from the dust but a woman was made from bone, hence we cannot behave or think alike.

2. An average woman wants to be teased, cared for and pampered. Even if she's horny she still wants her man to ask her for sex, this makes her feel like a woman.

3. Her frequent sickness is not her fault, it is the nature of her body. You must learn to live with this truth. In fact, she wants you to pity her and give her special care when she's sick.
Stop getting angry anytime she complain to you about one pain or the other.
Sometimes the pain may not be as much as she presents it but she love to act that drama to get your attention. Her need for attention is really a function of nature and not because she wants to disturb you.

4. She wants a man who will listen to all her jagons and stories. Some of these stories may not be interesting but if you don't listen another man will listen and steal her heart away from you.
An average woman will willingly give her heart to a man who listens to her. Even if you don't have solution to her stories, share her pain and fear.

5. Did you find her behaving like a child? Yes, she is your first child. Even her godmother played childishness at the Garden of Eden - she played with the enemy and traded their estate to the devil. You will have peace if you see her as your first child.

For Couples Who Desires Healthy Marriage:
GOLDEN SECRETS THAT MARRIAGE ENTAILS

6. Her tear is a way of communication, don't ignore it. Each drop of tear is a message. If you ignore her tears, they will metamorphose into bitterness, anger, nagging and emotional depression. If not well managed it could lead to witchcraft.
How To Understand Your Woman

7. She doesn't want to share you with anyone. Her excessive jealousy is not a crime, it is because she loves you and wants to protect you. If you kill that zeal, you will never enjoy her love again. She will never trust you again.
Appreciate her jealousy, make her proud and clear all her doubts. Don't accuse her of being over jealous.

8. Tell her you love her. Say good things about her. Even if it's flattering she doesn't mind. Talk about her dress, complement her hairstyle, appreciate her shape and shout about her sense of humor. Those sweet words bring out the best out of her.
She is a woman, she is not a man.
Peaceful home is our concern.

A must Read For Singles:
WHAT SINGLES SHOULD KNOW BEFORE RELATIONSHIP

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January 5, 2020

Potential Pillars That Stabilises Relationship/Marriage

POTENTIAL PILLARS THAT STABILISES RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE 

When a relationship seems to be flailing, it usually stems from some lack of communication. Whether you're holding back what's on your mind or ending every night with a crazy fight, sometimes you just need to sit down and have a proper talk. There are a number of conversations that have the potential to save a relationship, and although they might feel uncomfortable at first to bring up, they could really make or break if you stay with your partner — and it could be a worth a try to get everything out in the open.

Must Read for Couples and potential couples;
GOLDEN SECRETS THAT MARRIAGE ENTAILS
So i will give some out of those 11 potential pillars that help in stabilizing relationship.
Potential Pillars that Stabilises Relationship/marriage

1.INTIMACY:
Intimacy is the ability to completely be yourself in front of the other person —warts and all," says psychotherapist and relationship coach Toni Coleman, LCSW, CMC over email. "If you can’t share those difficult feelings, be vulnerable, and avoid taking any risks, you will never achieve true intimacy. Healthy relationships are ones where partners share intimacy, have one another’s backs, and feel safe with one another."
Intimacy isn't just about sex ... The best intimacy sometimes is just laying together, gisting , laughing and enjoy each others company.
The most precious gift you can give your partner is the gift of your time and attention.

2.RELATIONSHIP BOUNDARIES:
It is important to talk about the boundaries each of you have in the relationship, so you can be clear about what would make each of you feel unsafe, disrespected, or disinterested," says therapist Shadeen Francis, MFT over email. "To start this conversation, ask your partner, 'Are there things I might do that would make you want to end the relationship?' This might be a hard question to answer, as many of us don’t have experience checking in on our boundaries until we are already upset that one has been crossed."

3.RELATIONSHIP NEEDS:
Talk about your needs both as a partner and as an individual. "We have needs that we would like to be met within our relationships; for example safety, support, honesty, and fun. "These represent the foundations of your connection, and they are our bonding needs. On the other hand, in our relationships, we still require room to grow as individuals. This may look like desired privacy, solo projects, or relationships with friends outside of the relationship."

4.RELATIONSHIP  FEARS:
It's not easy, but it's important to not only talk about what you are worried about in your relationship, but to make plans to both ease those concerns and plan for how to handle scary situations together, should they arise. "Fear promotes distance and can undermine your journey together. "When afraid, people stop being vulnerable and close off from their partners. Anxiety snowballs, and the longer it lingers, the bigger it gets."

Singles ValidTips:
WHAT SINGLES SHOULD KNOW BEFORE RELATIONSHIP

5.FIGHTING STYLE :
There will inevitably be road bumps in your relationship, but figuring out the best way to communicate can help diminish any volatile arguments. "The solution is not to avoid tough conversations, but instead learning to fight fair. "What is it that each of you are naturally inclined to do when you have hurt feelings or are arguing a point? Once you know what your partner naturally does to protect themselves in an argument, you can not only depersonalize these experiences, but make agreements to change any behaviors that are too hurtful or unproductive.
Potential Pillars that Stabilises Relationship/marriage

6.SPENDING HABIT:
It is important to talk about how each of you handles money and how you want to handle it as a couple. "Are you interested in saving, spending and what purchases can you make without consulting the other?. "With different spending patterns, there can easily be resentment if one person is thrifty and the other is impulsive and indulgent. Agreeing on a strategy will put both of you on the same page, working towards a common goal."

7.CHILDREN: 
Even if you're not at that point yet, if you're in a serious relationship that could lead to a family, you need to get on the same page. "Whether you want to have children or not and how to parent them is a huge topic that couples needs to discuss, as there is a lot of room for divergent opinion.

8.EACH OTHERS FAMILY:
You and your partner may have different visions of how you want to interact with your family and their involvement in your lives, so it must be discussed. "It is important for you as a couple to come to an understanding of the boundaries that you want to set with your family. "This will enable you to present a united front to your families and support one another in the process."

9. ALONE TIME:
This is a common topic that is not discussed in most relationships. "Society leads us to believe that when you are with someone, you are supposed to be with them all the time — this is as far from the truth as can be. "When you are constantly with your partner, you are actually developing an unhealthy dependency on them. It is actually really healthy for you to have your own interests and spend time cultivating them. That might mean having a conversation with   partner about how much 'me time' you need in order to do so."

Incoming Partners Check this;
False Standards For Finding A Partner.

10.WORK LIFE BALANCE:
You can have a relationship and a career, but no one partner should feel like they're not getting in the time they feel promised. "Many people wish to have huge careers, and this can mean long hours at work ,If that's the case, better to disclose the fact that you won't be at home as much so that your partner can learn to not overly rely on your company."

11.HOUSEWORK:
Is another topic to discuss that can save a relationship," says Steinberg. "Knowing that your partner is comfortable pulling his/her weight cleaning-wise is a big comfort to a lot of people. Many people don't want to be a maid at home to a capable grown-up."... There is nothing bad in helping your partner out in one thing or the other if you are less busy, you are her help mate remember so don't make things difficult for her. And females if your partner is helping you out ... I feel you shouldn't misuse the opportunity.

Compilation of Lecture delivered on OTRelationship Webinar.

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January 2, 2020

GOLDEN SECRETS THAT MARRIAGE ENTAILS

GOLDEN SECRETS THAT MARRIAGE ENTAILS. 


TO THOSE WHO ARE MARRIED AND THOSE PREPARING TO GET MARRIED SOON.

Wouldn’t you like to know the secret sauce to a happy and long-lasting marriage, especially from those happily married couples who have aced the art of leading a happy relationship?
These golden secrets will help you problem-solve the marital issues, disarm the conflicting spouse and help you create and maintain a successful marriage.
Golden Secrets that Marriage Entails

A must Read For Potential Partners:
False Standards For Finding A Partner.

1. EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A WEAKNESS:
Only God has no weakness. Every rose flower has its own thorn. If you focus too much on your spouse's weakness, you can't get the best out of his/her strength.

2. EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A DARK HISTORY:
No one is an Angel, therefore, avoid digging one's past. What matters is the present life of your partner. Old things are passed away. try to forgive and forget. The past can't be change. So Focus on the present and the future!

3. EVERY MARRIAGE HAS IT'S OWN CHALLENGES;
Marriage is not bed of roses. Every shinning marriage has gone through its own test of hot and excruciating fire. True love is proved in time of challenge. Fight for your marriage! Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in time of needs. Remember this is the vow you made on your wedding day!

4. EVERY MARRIAGE HAS DIFFERENT LEVELS OF SUCCESS;
Don't compare your marriage with anyone! We can never be equal, some will be far in front and others far behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time, your marriage dreams shall come true.

5. TO MARRY IS TO DECLARE A WAR;
When you marry, you must declare a war against enemies of marriage. Some of the enemies of marriage are: Ignorance, Prayerlessness, Unforgiveness, Adultery, Third Party Influence, Stinginess, Stubbornness, Lack Of Love, Rudeness, Wife battery, Laziness, Divorce etc. Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.

Great Tips For Couples;
What Really Brings Intimacy In Relationship?
Golden Secrets that marriage entails

6. THERE IS NO PERFECT MARRIAGE;
There is no ready made marriage anywhere. Marriage is hard work, volunteer yourself and perfect it daily. Marriage is like a CAR with Gear oil, gear box, back hassles and If this parts are not properly maintained, the car will brake down somewhere along the road and exposing the occupant to unhealthy circumstances. - Many of us are careless about our marriage... Are you? If you are, pls pay attention to your marriage.

7. GOD CANNOT GIVE YOU THE COMPLETE PERSON YOU DESIRE;
He (God) gives you, him or her in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould what you desire. You may desire a woman who can pray for 1 hours but your wife can only pray for 30 minutes. With your love, prayer and encouragement, she can improve.

8. TO MARRY IS TO TAKE A RISK;
You cannot predict what will happen after marriage, as situation may change, so, leave a room for adjustment. Pregnancy may not come in the next 4 years. You may get married to her because she's slim but she becomes 100% fatter after a child. He may lose his beautiful job for years that you have to take the financial responsibility of the family until he gets a new job. But with God by your side, you will smile at last.

9. MARRIAGE IS NOT A CONTRACT, IT IS PERMANENT;
Marriage needs total commitment, love is the glue that makes a couple stick together. Divorce starts in the mind. Never think of divorce! Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married! God hates divorce

10. EVERY MARRIAGE HAS A PRICE TO PAY;
Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money you deposit into your bank account that you can withdrawn. If you don't deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate of a blissful home. There is no free love in marriage, You cannot love without giving and sacrificing.

May God Give us The Grace And Wisdom To Build A Heaven on Earth Marriage.

Be Conscious, Vigilant and Careful @OTR

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December 26, 2019

False Standards For Finding A Partner.


FALSE STANDARDS FOR FINDING A PARTNER 

Most reason why most relationship shipwrecked is due to fact that:
*Either we don't choose right or we used the wrong criteria to choose.*
In reality there are numbers of people who would be suitable for you to get into relationship with or marry...but a difference in timing or circumstances could have resulted in you getting hooked to one person.
And I will like to remind us that there are lot of suitable partners for you, don't be deceived with only one person is meant or created for me..😃
False standards for finding a partner

And more over marrying that suitable person does not mean all others will vanish away..
No matter how devoted we are to that partner, no Matter the love, we will always meet others of the opposite sex who attracts us.. it's normal, natural and inevitable.
It's how we deal with this reality in large measure that determines if we are going to experience success or failure in relationship or marriage..

Most Read;
Words That Sustains Relationship.

*So in finding that mate choice and commitment is paramount.*
There are some criterion/standards most of our relationship are built on but are not supposed to:.. in the world today most relationship are built on
 *physical appearance, social status, intellectual ability and financial ability*

Physical attraction; 
only goes so far, if couples build their relationship on such  a standard, so tell me what happens when physical beauty begins to fade, gorgeous hair turns grey or alopecia/ loss of hair..
Most guys will tell you, I want a lady with boobs, chaiii, so that I will be caressing it and sucking it.. what will happen when those standing alert boobs turn slipper one..🤷🏻‍♂
Or I wnt the athletic abs, wat gonna happen wen he start having botbelly😅
If we want a happy, long term relationship, we should look far more beyond physical appearance/ simply physical attraction

About social status; 
majority especially woman want their partner to provide them with everything needed in the society.. so they wanna marry into a good family with money😅😅, a well respected fam and influential individual... all this can change often quickly, all is takes is a downturn in economy or a mistake in a poor investment to knock some down the social ladder.. Go with the purpose inclined with yours and not solely bcos of social status.

Intellectual ability 
Some choose bcos of intellectual ability educational prowess of an individual.. I must marry a doctor or na nurse I must marry... ghen ghen😌.
What course does he study? Is he a graduate?? Is he an engineer? An oil mogul ??.
All this does not depict them giving you the needed attention or care in that marriage.. look beyond this.

A must Read for Couples; click
What Really Brings Intimacy In Relationship?

Financial Ability; 
The paramount one is the financial ability.. it's more important.  When you base choosing a partner on his or her financial means.. then you are on your own..*

Can she support me with her money?.. can he take care of me.. these are legitimate questions person in need of a lasting relationship ask.. but such individual must be careful they are prepared for the financial realities of married life. Financial means alone is not basis going into relationship or getting married.*
False standards for finding a partner

*All these a things we look for but they temporary, any of them can change in an instant*
Our primary concern should not be how some look or what he or she does but what kind of person that person is..... appearance are deceiving.

Individual here are born with talents and gifts but character must be developed and cultivated also nurtured over time.
So it's far more important to get to know that person before getting into a serious relationship .. stay with them long enough and the character will begin to show through. Be alert that is outward behaviour is the reflection of his character. Solid character will reflect itself in consistent behaviour, while the poor character will seek to hide behind deceptive words and actions... pay close attention to this*👍👍

Singles Must Read; check
WHAT SINGLES SHOULD KNOW BEFORE RELATIONSHIP

Before you can do this, identify the qualities and character that you will hold as standard without compromise and then evaluate the potential candidate or incoming you meet with those standards of yours.👊👊
If we know the qualities and character that we re looking for in a mate, it will be much easier for us to recognize that person whenever he or she comes along.. and that depends the stay.

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November 21, 2019

Words That Sustains Relationship.


WORDS THAT SUSTAINS RELATIONSHIP 

You will agree with me that words goes a long way in our heart. One way to express love emotionally is to use words
that build up.The tongue has the power of life and death.
💥💥💥
Many couple / partners have never learned the tremendous power of verbally affirming each other. You will agree that An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up.
❄Verbal compliments, or words of appreciation, are powerful communicators of love. They are best expressed in simple, straightforward statements of affirmation,.
Words that sustains relationship

Whether it's a simple compliment to kick off your partner's day or something deeper, these words of affirmation are the kind of stuff your spouse wants to hear every morning/day and saying them will really strengthen your bond.🎯


Without further ado, the words that your partner wanna hear from you, that will build them up to do well in that relationship and marriage.

1 .Words of Encouragement:
💥Giving verbal compliments is only  one way to express words of affirmation to your spouse. The word encourage means “to inspire courage.”All of us  have areas in which we feel insecure. We lack courage, and that lack of courage often hinders us from accomplishing the positive things that we would like to do.
The latent potential within your spouse in his or her areas of insecurity may await your encouraging words.
Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse’s perspective.

🎯 We must first learn what is important to our spouse. Only then can we give encouragement.
 With verbal encouragement, we are trying to communicate, “I know. I care. I am with you. How can I help?”
We are trying to show that we believe in him/her and in his/her abilities. We are giving credit and praise.❤❤

2 .Tell your partner you’re lucky to have him/her:
Human take great pride in feeling like they've bettered our lives.
If you're feeling lucky in love, don't keep those thoughts to yourself: Tell your significant other exactly how you feel.

3. Appreciate your partner:
Love can be fickle and desire could wane over time and fade oo.
 Letting your partner know that you appreciate all they do for you will incentivize them to continue their good and want to keep on with such act and behavior... Majority of partners are lacking in this aspect and its disheartening 😓😓

4. Spoil your partner with kind words:
Love is kind. If then we are to communicate love verbally, we must use kind words. That has to do with the way we speak. The same sentence can have two different meanings, depending on how you say it. The statement “I love you,” when said with kindness and tenderness, can be
a genuine expression of love.

Sometimes our words are saying one thing, but our tone of voice is saying another.We are sending double messages. Our spouse will usually interpret our message based on our tone of voice, not the words we use.
The manner in which we speak is exceedingly important.
Its said that “A soft answer turns away anger.” When your spouse is angry and upset and lashing out words of heat, if you choose to be loving you will not reciprocate with additional heat but with a soft voice.

Also, This is in regards forgiveness and things you say. Love doesn’t keep a score of wrongs. Love doesn’t bring up past failures. None of us is perfect. In marriage/relationship we do not always do the best or right thing. We have sometimes done and said hurtful things to our spouses. We cannot erase the past, We can only confess it and agree that it was wrong. We can ask for forgiveness all with a kind words.

5. Apologise when you’re wrong:
We tend to wanna claim right most time, Women are famed for always wanting to be right even when they are blatantly wrong🤪🤪.
It is a common thing to hear people say that a man must be willing and ready to apologise every time even if he’s not the wrong one.
By reversing this silly rule,  show your partner that you are more concerned about making things right than with your ego.
Just set a reasonable standard and set a good principles. Sorry goes a longgggg way... it should not cost us anything to utter at alll🔊🔊

6. Tell your partner how he/she gonna be good father/mother:
We are usually measured by how responsible we are for family/ commitment to relationship and also  our homes, especially those who are married.🙇‍♀🙇‍♀
 So it means a lot to partners to hear that they are not messing up on that front especially when it comes to how the kids are being nurtured or how their families are being cared for.
This compliment reinforces their work and sacrifice for the family, hmmmmm increasing their desire to continue. That, in turn, strengthens the family unit/ relationship and creates a bond of pride and greater involvement of the other party in anything they want to do.
I mean it keeps them in shape together 😚

7. I’m proud of you:
Verbalize this to ur partner, let his/her head burst😫😫
We are all very sensitive to performance issues.
As a good partner worry about  not disappointing your spouse.
Telling your spouse that he/she is the best, most loving partner has a megawatt positive impact and pierces marrow and heart😫😫.
Human need reassurance that they are doing a good job." Reassurance and validation will go a long way in making ur partner know that they are doing right by you..

Be Vigilant, conscious and Careful in Relationship.

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November 14, 2019

What Really Brings Intimacy In Relationship?

WHAT REALLY BRINGS INTIMACY IN RELATIONSHIP?

🍒 What is Intimacy?
Intimacy Simply means becoming ONE.
Intimacy is what brings about mutual vulnerability, openness and effective communication in your relationship/marriage.
🍒 Sex is not intimacy as you can have sex with anyone without sharing intimacy with the person yeah. Sex is intercourse.
🍒 The thing is, God may have made you (and your spouse) for each other, but you must understand each other before you can succeed.
It is not enough that you are meant for each other, you must understand where you complement each other.
What really brings intimacy in relationship
A MUST READ FOR SINGLES AND COUPLES:
HOW TO KNOW AN AMBITIOUS PARTNER IN RELATIONSHIP
Spouse is supposed to compliment you in the areas of your life that you need help and that makes for one formidable team.
🍒 I'll like to say that; if communication is the engine that powers the relationship between a  husband and wife, intimacy is the oil that lubricates it

So without the oil what happens to the engine?
Oh yeah same thing happens to your marriage when there is no intimacy. It Knocks!!


TYPES OF INTIMACY 

🍒 Physical or Emotional Intimacy:
Is the level of intimacy where the couple understands each other’s feelings. Your spouse does not need to say a word before you understand how he/she is feeling.
You can walk into your home and know there's something up with your spouse without he/she having to draw your attention (verbally) to it.

🍒 Spiritual Intimacy:
 Is also a higher level of communication and understanding on spiritual matters. One way to notice spiritual intimacy is your communication with God on matters concerning your marriage and the household.

🍒 Social Intimacy:
This is enjoying each other’s company. And being each other's companion.
If you hate to be around each other or can’t get along, it is a sign that you are not building social intimacy with your spouse😁

🍒 Intellectual Intimacy:
This is the level of intimacy at which you respect each other’s intellect whether you appreciate it or not.
For instance, I am a Phlegmatic-melancholy by character trait, but my husband is Choleric-Sanguine and that is very evident in the way we think.
I like to take my time but think outside the box, don't rush me to get things done.. But my husband is a fast thinker and wants to make his decisions here and now..
That process of thinking fascinated me at the beginning of our relationship, but that quickly became a nightmare after we got married😀😀 like slow down man!
This continued until we learned to respect each other’s intellect. I may not understand it, but I sure do respect it now and sometimes, we even trade places😀. It's a fun place to get to in your relationship/marriage.
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🍒 Money Intimacy:
There's nothing as rewarding as when couples come to term with the mindset of "my money, our money; his/her money, our money"
It builds some kind of special intimacy in your marriage.
Please note: in seeking Money Intimacy terms and conditions apply😁 make sure you both have a good and healthy relationship with money or at least let the most healthy-money spouse deal with the finances.
🍒 When couples are intimate in all these areas, the result is always magical. 
That’s when you call your spouse on the phone, and he/she says, “I just picked up the phone to call you”, or I was just thinking about you. Some call it telepathy but the real thing is that the soul is becoming one.

Now to why we are here tonight 👇🏼

🍒 What brings intimacy to your relationship/marriage?


🔹The committment to keep watering your garden (relationship/marriage)

🔹 Seeking to understand your spouse rather than being understood all the time.

🔹 When you wake up every day with the mindset of how you can out-serve your spouse.

🔹Romancing your visions and life goals and creating one for your relationship/marriage

🔹Everything that has to do with relationship/marriage (including intimacy) has to do with open and honest communication.
🔹 First of all where are you in your relationship/marriage, in terms of intimacy?

Is communication an open art or you cautiously keep some things to yourself?
🔹Once you’ve discovered where you are right now, then write out practical changes that are to be made in order to move from here to there (where you desire to be when it comes to intimacy). Stating clearly who needs to make those changes.
Consider compromise here and sacrifice.
🔹 Work on your friendship. Spend time together. Develop hobbies together. Take an interest in what your spouse is doing. If your spouse is overburdened with work, do what you can to help them.
Help each other calm down, de-stress, and spend more time together.

🔹 Be there for each other. Spice up your intimacy. Sign up for courses, read books together. Don’t be bored and don’t be boring. It’s easy to get distracted with a cell phone, tablet, or book at bedtime, but cuddling is actually a much better way to end your day and spice up your marriage.
The chemicals that are released when we cuddle with our spouses improve our mood, deepen our connection, and can even help us sleep better😁. 
What really brings intimacy in relationship

🔹The Weekly CEO/COO Meeting is something that has been working for my husband and I - this exercise provides you and your spouse with an opportunity to interact as adults (no kids allowed) and without distractions (no phones, tablets, or laptops allowed).
Schedule a non-negotiable chunk of time (30 minutes – 1 hour is a good default) once a week for you and your spouse to talk about how you both are doing, your relationship as a couple, any unfinished arguments or grievances, or any needs that are not being met. 
This will really help both of you connect on a deep level.

You can start the meeting with questions like:
How do you feel about us today? Is there anything you feel incomplete about from this past week that you would like to talk about? How can I make you feel more loved in the coming days?
The answers to these questions should lead you and your spouse in a healthy and productive discussion about your selves and your relationship and will also help build intimacy between you and your spouse.

🍒 Finally, be sure to smile, laugh, and touch your partner in reassuring and friendly ways. Again, keep the friendship fire burning.
Make your spouse a huge part of your day, fill them in, be flexible, don't be too uptight.

PRAY for your spouse and PRAY together as often as you can. Holding hands to pray together deepens your intimacy in a way that can't be explained.
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Intimacy (becoming one) is possible. Be more intentional about working on your relationship/marriage - everyday.
Communicate; and see a counsellor if necessary.
Wishing you the very best of LOVE.

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