March 23, 2021

HOW YOUR PARTNER TREAT THEIR FAMILY, DETERMINES THE SUCCESS OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP

IN EVERY SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP, FAMILY MATTERS.

A family is important because our mental growth, well-being, and stability all depend on our family, and whom we spend most of our life time with. Strong relationships teach us how to build trust in others as family members share both good and bad times together without prejudice or benefit attached.



Conflicts in family teach children a respectful way to resolve problems in the future, which adversely do help how we relate with our partners. Family is always a conversation topic when getting to know a date. The relationship you have with your family, how you talk or relate to them defines you, and also defines your relationship with your partner. 

All individuals are different and seek certain family dynamics depending on their own. However it's a turn off when someone talks very negatively about family members, shows no appreciation, no regards/respect and simply doesn't care about family. Intending couples, should NOTE this, it's a REDFLAG.

Of course, if there was a trauma , those reactions are more understandable. Even so, many people go through struggle and still deem fit to speak about their family in a respectful manner. That shows the strength and how they can handle situations if face in relationship. 

Don't neglect your family relationships. Dig into your current family situation and relationships, can you explain it all smoothly with ease? If not, you may need to work on this part of your life. Being fulfilled in all areas of your life will only enhance your dating life and will make your relationship productive. 



You can build good relationships in your family with quality time, communication, teamwork and appreciation. Good family relationships are enjoyable for their own sake,  it just feels good to be part of a warm and loving family. 

But good family relationships are important for lots of other reasons too. So if he/she doesn't have a good family relationship, be sure and know what you are going into. FAMILY MATTERS!!

In Relationship be Conscious, Vigilant and Careful @OTR. 

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December 1, 2020

FLIRTING. A Need In Every Marriage Relationship.

FLIRTING, A TOPMOST NEED FOR EVERY MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP. 

Flirting is a vulnerable expression that you should do always because it shows that you do not only love your spouse, but you like them.

When you don't make flirting a part of your relationship, it become bored. Don't get too familiar with your spouse that you forget to spice things up a bit. 

Flirting is fun and nothing to be ashamed of. Consider flirting as something you say or do that makes your spouse smile in a way that makes you smile back.

Flirting a topmost need for every relationship


This will generally improve your marriage relationship and grow a stronger bond with your partner. It helps you laugh and connect with your spouse in a unique way. But remember, don't flirt with others and ignore your partner's emotions, it's a bad thing. Flirt with your spouse today.

To flirt is defined as to behave in a way to be romantically appealing to someone or to dabble with an idea or with participating in something, but not commit. But if your married, be free to commit please. 

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Flirting is all about giving a deep interest in someone and you continually let them see the need for it. Not all about sex and sexual advances. And flirting with your spouse doesn't mean you want sex but it strengthens the commitment and bond.

Quite often, in couples I work with, the issue is not that partners don't know how to flirt, they forget to make a habit of it, and they become rusty.

Are you still flirting with your spouse? Abi its inshaalla? And I'm not taking about the kind that happens only on Valentine's Day or your anniversary its something that should be culture in your marriage relationship. 

This only if cultivated can bring about connection and intimacy in a unique way. 

Reason you need flirting in your marriage relationship.

✨It shows your spouse that you still like them, just like when you first met or when you were dating.

✨It shows your spouse that you want them.

✨It boost your spouse's self esteem. I think everyone wants this.

✨It puts you in a good mood for some hot, steaming, all night kind of sex. And every marriage needs this kind of sex sometimes.

✨It helps you to build a bond of friendship. Like I just be free and have fun with each other.

 Simple ways to flirt with your spouse.

🌺Pay him or her an unexpected compliments. 

🌺Spend a little extra time kissing him or her goodbye before they leave for work. Or let them see the need to persistently need you, forget nagging. 

🌺Dig out an attractive nightie that you haven't worn in a while and wear it to bed tonight 

🌺Next time he or she enters the room, undress them with your eyes. You know now😃, look slowly look up and down their body. Smile at him or her when they notice what you're doing.

🌺send him or her flirty text messages all day long. 

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Messages like;

  • I can't wait to come home to you, my pants are on fire just thinking of you.
  • I desire your touch, your kisses, and your hands running up and down my body.
  • Where are you, baby? My heart is longing for you, right here, right now. (Send this along with a picture.) You won't die😫

Also when you receive such message from your spouse, do well to reply with something just as sweet and alluring, especially immediately.

The feeling should be mutual and passed both ways. Don't allow Lagos traffic serve as stressor that will stop the organic flow, or busy schedule at work... Please run to the one side and reply, excuse your self. If you will enter toilet please do.

💋Tell your spouse what your find attractive about him, why you love him, that you miss him. Etc

💋Stroke his or her thigh under under the dinner table or while taking a walk.

💋Go to movie and sit at the back row, I mean the back the back where you can cuddle.😌

💋Slide into the shower with him or her when they are not looking.  This was my usual act in the 90's. I love it believe me.

🔥Write, I love you or compliment him or her on their wall and tag them. 

🔥If you're good in writing. Write some poem or poet. share classic love poem or song with your spouse. 

🔥Next time you're alone together at home, show some skin. Wear a short skirt or don't button your shirt up all the way. 

Flirting a topmost for every relationship

Let us see the cleavage now, don't wear j
alamiaaa, and adieu papa at home clothes. Guys wear tight brief, that will showcase the package, ladies go on lingerie now, even if you don't have ass and boobs we don't mind. Doesn't matter. Don't  tie rapper like widow.

🔥Give him or her kiss and smooching in the car spotlight.

🔥Guys/ladies grab some flesh. When he or she is walking by you, smack the butt. The size does not matter, if your husband has bigger butt than you, don't be jealous, smack it every time. Bite those hard nipples of his.😫😫

🔥This is important, ask your partner to choose your panties or boxers for the day. They will be picturing you in nothing but those panties all day, I assure you.

🔥Stick a notes on his lunch pack or clothes

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❤️I must add that flirting with your spouse is telling him or her you are ready for something hot, please do not leave them halfway.😫😫

❤️Send him or her a flirty SMS or voice and add, I can't wait for you to get home tonight. 

Then get ready for him or her in a special way.

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🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️ If you're both in different locations. Just flirt with your spouse and be creative about it. Make your spouse yearn for the time you'll both be together again. Be romantic on calls, do fun video calls and all that.

N.B: Most partner really want to do this all, but nagging, unhealthy attitudes, dramas and fights impede them. Pls let us cultivate the habit to always give room for love even during trivial period or during little fracas. 

Because you will be like my boyfriend don't do this, check your act and behaviour. And you too do unto him what you want him to do in a loving way.

In relationship be careful, vigilant and conscious @OTR 

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Compiled by Emem OHIMAI from The Route to love.

October 6, 2020

KNOW THE SKILLS NEEDED FOR HEALTHY ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP

SKILLS FOR HEALTHY ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP 

Intimacy, security, respect, good communication and sense of being valued. These are some of the things that most people will agree make up for healthy relationship. I'm sure we all agree to this too.

And researches would agree too. There's a large body of literature on romantic relationships, that has identified the features of healthy relationships, and this list I just provided contains many of  them.



Researchers also agree on what makes for unhealthy relationships; things like fighting so much that you just can't work things out; not being able to go to your partner for support when you need it.

Contempt, criticism, hostility, violence. When these problem happen in relationships, they can cause significant unhappiness, they can lead to the end of the relationship or divorce, and they can literally make people physically & emotionally sick.

This is why it's so critical that people have healthy relationships. But there's a problem; how many people know, I mean, really know what to do in a day to day basis to create healthy relationship.?

My point is this; We may know what a healthy relationship looks like, but most people have no ideas how to get one and no one teaches us how to do so. Cryptocurrency trading.

We need to teach people how to have a healthy relationship now.  But do you know when we typically do so? After it's too late; it's called "couple therapy". I do couples therapy and it can be wonderful thing, but many people came to couples therapy with so many ingrained problems and patterns that they just can't change. It's too late.

You know when else we try to teach people how to have a healthy relationship? It should be right before they get married it's called Premarital Education.

Premarital education is a good idea; teach people how to have a good relationship while they are still happy, presumably. Then relationship can work well; but to me or with my own opinion it's still too late. Why?? Because people have already selected the person they want to commit their life to.

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What if they selected poorly? No amount of premarital education can make up for a bad partner choice. So the way we have tried to teach people how to have healthy relationships have been limited, because they failed to address 3 important things.

Genuinely knowing what you want and need in a partner & in a relationship, selecting the right person, and developing & using skills right from the beginning. I dont mean the beginning of a particular relationship. I mean the beginning-beginning like as soon as possible, just need to teach people especially the young people how to have healthy relationship.

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There's a skills based model of relationship functioning, that I believe can help people create the things that lead to healthy relationship and reduce the Behaviours that lead to unhealthy ones. 

Identified 3 skills;

💦Insight 

💦Mutuality 

💦Emotional Regulation.

 This skills form the basis for what we call romantic competence.  Romantic Competence is the ability to function adaptively across all areas or all aspects of the relationship process, from figuring out what you need, to finding the right person, to building healthy relationship and getting out of relationship not healthy.

This skills really represent the commonalities across the major theory and lot of research findings on healthy relationship. And I think they really can help people with all the different parts of the relationship process, and with all different people. Whether in relationship or not.

1. Insight

It's about awareness and understanding and learning. So with insight, you'll have a better idea of who you're, what you need, what you want, why you do things you do.

So let's say you are being really snappy to your partner.  With insight, you might notice or realise that it's not that your partner is doing anything but it's just actually you're really stressed out at work and what you really need is to relax a little bit, so it doesn't bleed out over into your relationship.

✨Insight will also let you know your partner better. Let say your partner show up late for a date; with insight you'll able know why. For example, maybe your partner is late for everything. It's nothing about you or the relationship.  That's just who your partner is.

✨With insight you will be able to anticipate the positive and negative consequences of your behaviour. For example; you'll know that if you send that nasty text, it's not going to go well; maybe you better make a phone call instead. 

✨With insight you'll be able to learn from your mistakes in a ways that allows to behave differently in the future. So maybe you'll recognize that you're the kind of person who tends to jump in things really quickly; you get wrapped up in the romance of things and then things don't go well. 

In other to be able to say/do well in the next time, I'm going to take things a little more slowly and not repeat same mistakes. That's insight

✨With insight you'll understand about what's really right for you in a relationship. Maybe you're the kind of person who really needs a monogamous relationship, you are not owk with your partner seeing other people or maybe you realise it's just the opposite that you're not ready to settle down and you need a partner that's owk with that.

2. Mutuality:

 This is about knowing that both people have needs an that both sets of needs matter.  With mutuality, you'll be able to convey your own needs in a clear direct fashion that increases the likelihood that you'll get them met.

Maybe you go through a fam stressful event, and you like your partner to be there with you, you might say indirectly. "You know this is going to be stressful for me, I would really love for you to be there; you'll be a really good buffer for me. Is there anyway you can clear your schedule to come with me?"

With mutuality, you'll be willing to meet your partners needs as well. Let say you know that your partner really likes to go to the fyn first thing in the morning, it makes your partner feel better throughout the rest of the day.

Mutuality will let you be willing to support your partner in this, even though you'd really rather have your partner stay home in bed with you.

✨And mutuality also let you factor both people's needs into decisions that you make about your relationship.

So let's say you get a great job offer that you'd like to take, but you know it means you will have to work more, and you know how important it is for both you and your partner to spend time together. 

With mutual approach, you might say; you know, I would really like to take this job, it really important to me, but I also, am concerned about us spending time together. If I promised to protect some time for us, will you be owk with me talking this job?

3. Emotion Regulation; 

This is about regulating your feelings in response to things that happen in your relationship. With emotion regulation you'll be able to keep your emotions calm and things that happen in your relationship in perspective;  You might think oh my goodness, this is disaster! This is the worst thing ever!! How am I going to handle this!!

But with emotion Regulation, you know what? I can handle this, this is going to be alright, there is a way to deal with this. I'm going to figure this out, everything is going to be owk.

With Emotional Regulation, you'll be able to tolerate uncomfortable feelings and not act not on them impulsively, so you'll be able to think through your decision more clearly.

So let's say you're waiting for your partner to text you back, that text isn't coming, you're getting really anxious. With Emotion Regulation (ER), you'll be able to tell yourself "calm down and be fine".

With ER, you'll be able to maintain a sense of self respect and commitment to your needs,  even when bad things happen in your relationship.

So let's say you have a break-up, you're feeling really depressed, you're really missing your partner, with ER, you'll be able to let yourself know that it's owk. That yeah, you're going to feel depressed but you're going to get over it and get through this.

If you beg and plead to get back together, you're not going to feel good about yourself and you don't even want to be in relationship that wasn't good for you.

I believe with these 3 skills with your ability to use the skills on day to day basis, will let you have healthy relationships.



How these 3 skills works

Some days back, I was talking to someone and she said that when her partner asked her what she wanted for her birthday, she told him she didn't want anything. So guess what?? She didn't get anything, and she got really angry and mad, and they had a big fight.

Why? Because she really did want a present, she just didn't want to tell him. She just wanted him to somehow know. It's called "mind reading" Its a terrible idea, it never works.

Had she be using this skills;

💦 Insight would have let her know herself well enough to realise that she really did want something and if she didn't get it, she was going to be mad. Insight also would have let her know that her partner was the kind of guy who was just going to take what she said literally.

💦 Mutuality would have let her really ask for what she wanted, directly and clearly.

💦 Emotion Regulation would have let her deal with any feelings she was having that were getting in the way of doing that. She might not want to be greedy or something. 

Listen, So if she had used the skills, she would have been able to say; You know what? I know we are saving, but I really like that necklace that we saw the other day & it wasn't that expensive. 

He would have gotten if for her, she would have felt respected & valued.  He would have been happy. They would have felt more intimate and birthday thing would have go down well instead of fight that can really damage the relationship.

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WHY YOU NEED TO BE ROMANTICALLY COMPETENCE

  1. Adolescents who are romantically competence tend to have a good relationship, they felt comfortable being close to people, they could trust people, they weren't worried of being rejected. 
  2. They are not depressed, they had better mental health. They are also more position about their expectations about marriage in the future. More optimistic that it could go well.
  3. Tends to engage in more typical romantic activities of their age. Things that are normative like dating and flirting and affectionate behaviour like hugging and kissing.
  4. If they grow up; the more adaptive relational functioning they were showing and the better mental health they will show. 
  5. More romantically competent men and women feel more secure in relationships. They also reports making better decisions. They can see the warning signs when things aren't going well and make conscious decisions with confidence.
  6. They are also better at seeking and providing support to their partners.  So they are more willing to ask for what they need and use what the partners give them.
  7. And they are better at providing helpful support when needed.  They are more satisfied in their relationships, they were happier, you hardly see them coming down with depressive symptoms and anxiety symptoms. 
  8. Being Romantically competent at young age or before going in a relationship is a associated with greater, more adaptive relationship functioning and greater individual well being. 

And this bring back to the point that we need to be teaching people how to have a healthy relationship. We may know what healthy relationship looks like but most have no idea how to get one and no one teaches us how to do so and this is the problem.

We want partner to be romantically competent with healthy act in relationship.

We need to help people genuinely know what they want  & need in a relationship. We need to help them select the right partner, help them make good decisions and deal with the challenges that relationship brings and we need to help them build and use skills right from the beginning. 

This is what the notion of romantically competence is about; using the 3 skills to reduce the Behaviours that lead to unhealthy relationship like fight, poor support, hostility & criticisms, violence and create the things that lead to healthy one like intimacy, security, respect & good communication and sense of being valued.

In relationship be Careful, vigilant and conscious @OTR 

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August 16, 2020

World Most Dangerous Sex Style For Men.

World Most Dangerous Sex Style For Men 

Penile fracture is a rare urological emergency/condition that describes the rupture of the corpus cavernosum following direct, high-pressure trauma to the erect penis.

Surgical repair or surgical reconstruction is done in which  stitches are use to close the tear in the tunica albuginea and corpus cavernosum. 

The main goals of treatment are to restore or maintain your ability to have erections and preserve urinary function.


Listen to me ye doggy enthusiast and practitioners. Doggy style is considered the world most dangerous sex style in human because of its direct association with penile fracture. Doggy as we all know is responsible for a whooping 42% of all cases of fracture of human penis, followed by missionary style. Even the old good missionary style is dangerous. 

For male lovers who engage in aggressive, fast paced, vigorous coitus, doggy can become very risky and career threatening, I mean end your career as a womb shifter.

Since there is an increased risk of erected penis hitting the pelvic bone, especially when the dangerous organ slip out inadvertently. If you your penis slips out alot. Don't be doing doggy at high speed, when she's shouting choke me, or she's at the climax.. I repeat don't do doggy. 

It can slip out and as you thrust and barg to continue in sexual rhythm, you may miss the vagina's entrance and land on the pelvic bone. Your penis don break be that. 

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Another equally sex style is the style above. It can prove for the erect penis just as doggy is. The penis may slip out and striking the hard surface the lady is sitting on as the man goes pow pow pow. 

So if you're doing this, make sure you grab and pull her to the middle close to yourself so the chance of powerful organ slipping out and hitting the hard surface is significantly reduced. 

Penile fracture is not a joke and a child's play, so guys apply wisdom. 

July 28, 2020

DIETS THAT BOOST SEXUAL PERFORMANCE

DIETS THAT BOOST SEXUAL PERFORMANCE

Having a healthy sex drive is linked to feeling physically and emotionally healthy. So it’s no surprise that food can play a role in helping you get your groove back. I mean for you to be on track..
If you’ve hit a slump in the bedroom or extremely poor, it may be time to take a closer look at your diet. Lot of nutrients that can perk up your libido and may improve your overall health are just distance away. 
DIETS that boost sexual PERFORMANCE

The diets that boost sexual Performance;

1.Nuts and seeds. 
E.g Tiger nut, walnut, peanut and the like contains Zinc that help boost the testosterone level.
Showering your beloved with chocolates is a romantic gesture, but it won’t necessarily take them to new heights in the bedroom. Instead of candy, snack on a handful of nuts and seeds. 

Cashews and almonds are chock-full of zinc, while a host of healthy snacks contain L-arginine to get your blood flowing to the main organ that go help sexual performance. Walnut are double helpful in love performance, they are rich in omega 3, watermelon seed.

2.Garlic;
The pungent herb is a natural blood thinner often used to prevent high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and heart disease. 
The anticoagulant properties help ensure plenty of blood flow to your nether regions. You and your partner can both benefit from a healthy dose of garlic before an amorous evening.

If you’re both eating it, nobody will mind the strong breath. This should be taken often, you can take it in the morning too and have a cup of tea filled up with yogurt milk on top.. it does wonders.

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3.Salmon;
Salmon is well-known for having heart-healthy omega-3 fatty acids. The pink-fleshed fish, as well as tuna and halibut, might be the key to enhancing your sex life. Omega-3s help prevent the buildup of plaque in your arteries, thus improving blood flow throughout your body.

More reason I said earlier, exercise is more in important in sexual performance.. stress the heart muscle to some length. Give it that strength to pump blood adequately through the arteries,.. 

Don't just sit in your room alone, its people like you that won't be able to explore in the room than missionary style alone.,  if you are, remember it's only you and and partner in that stage, we have moved pass that kind level.

4.Oysters;
One of the potent diet. It helps to raise testosterone level and oestrogen level. A boost in hormone production translates into heightened sexual desire in many cases. Oysters are also an excellent source of zinc, which aids blood flow to sexual organs in both genders.

Don’t care for mollusks? Go on lobster or crab instead. Both types of shellfish are loaded with zinc.
At least if you don't know any mollusk, you should know crabs. I'm sure majority of you have forgotten your animal biology. Sister you need it now.

5.Apple;
Why did you think they injected Abacha apple?. I heard say na one lady them set make she give baba.He want to eat apple and come knack.
This improve your love life. Apples, along with berries, cherries, onions, and dark-colored grapes, are rich in quercetin.

This antioxidant, a type of flavonoid, may offer a number of health benefits. As far as sex goes, quercetin plays a role in controlling symptoms of prostatitis and interstitial cystitis (IC), and it promotes circulation.

Prostatitis is the inflammation of the prostate gland. It sometimes causes testicular discomfort and pain with ejaculation. IC, or painful bladder syndrome, may also make sex difficult for men and women. Sexual-related symptoms of IC include genital pain, erectile dysfunction, painful intercourse, and low desire.

You can see one of the reason you tell me, Offering,  please I'm having a low sex drive, I don't have urge, it's always painful if they enter, who are they? Lolz

6. Meat;
Include a variety of meats in your diet to improve your sex life. Beef, chicken, and pork contain carnitine, L-arginine, and zinc.

Carnitine and L-arginine are amino acids that improve blood flow. Uninterrupted blood flow is crucial to sexual response in both men and women, these two nutrients may effectively treat erectile dysfunction in some men.

P/s; Serve up some animal based protein (in moderation, to avoid increasing risk of heart disease) to help keep all systems running smoothly in the bedroom. Vegetarians can opt for whole grains, nuts, and dairy products.

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7. Red Wine;
This one seems pretty obvious. A glass of red wine may help ladies get in the mood. Sexual Medicine Trusted Source showed that one to two glasses of red wine a day increased sexual desire and lubrication in women, making them tipsy.

Red wine contains quercetin, which might account for the positive response. Researchers noted that drinking more than two glasses of red wine daily or indulging in other types of alcoholic beverages didn’t produce the same results.

I have lot of ladies who are good here... let me rest my case... Like have you wonder why most guys when they go clubbing or outing.. they order for meat and wine???

Note: While certain foods can keep your blood pumping and boost hormone levels, diet alone isn’t always enough to improve your sex life. Speak to your medical practitioner if lack of desire, pain during intercourse, or impotence is holding you back from enjoying an intimate relationship with your partner.

PHYSICAL ACTIVITY AND EXERCISE

Now, 'physically healthy' as it is used in this article means you being physically fit, engaging in active and passive exercises that help to increase strength and endurance. Some people find it hard to jog for 10 minutes without running out of air, they end up very tired and breathing like a giraffe. Sexual activity is a test of strength which involves exertion of energy. Therefore, one has to be physically fit and strong in order to last long in bed. 
This also includes kegels exercises which helps to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles.

Another important factor is your emotional status. Sexual activity is best enjoyed when both participants are happy and in an healthy psychological state, a state of no stress and in readiness for intercourse.

Remember, it's good to exercise, helps you adopt healthy habits so you can lose weight and keep it fit. Your program is customized to your goals and fitness needs. Just take a quick assessment and get started today, exercise daily. 

More reason I said earlier, exercise is more important in sexual performance, stress the heart muscle to some length. Give it that strength to pump blood adequately through the arteries.

Don't just sit in your room alone, don't be in the 'missionary only' category. And if you are, let me shock you, it's only you and your partner that's left in that group. The rest of us have gone past that level.

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June 27, 2020

How To Keep My Vagina Save

HOW TO KEEP THE VAGINA SAVE

To maintain a healthy vagina you must know what to do to avoid infection and it is equally important to educate your sexual partner on some of them to also help you help the vagina.
How to keep my vagina safe

Here are some few things you can do or avoid.

1. Fingering
During foreplay or romance, as part of it some people insert their finger or fingers into the vagina. The question is, how many people wash their hands before sexual intercourse?

 Some people do not even keep their nails clean so it gathers a lot of germs and during the fingering, these germs are deposited in the vagina...leading to infection. Same thing apply to autopleasure acts or masturbation.

2. Anal sex
I am not here to tell anybody to have anal sex or not to but I simply want to draw the attention of those who engage in anal sex with the opposite sex that it is dangerous to have anal sex and continue having penovaginal sex.

 If this is done, the penis will pick bacteria from the anus and deliver them to the vagina even if you are using a condom....which will lead to infection.
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3. Quest to make the vagina TIGHT
Some guys complain bitterly about the vagina of their sexual partners. They complain that it's too big and they no more feel any sensation during intercourse.

Some ladies are therefore pushed to find a quick solution and in the process some use herbs or other substances in the vagina with the hope of making the vagina tight. Some of the substances cause infection or sepsis.

Some of the herbs can cause the vagina to get tighter to the extent that penetration is no more possible. This will require treatment.

4. Douching
Some parents, when bathing for their baby girls put warm water in a milk tin or dip a towel in the warm water and pour the water through a hole made beneath the tin or squeeze the water out of the towel into the vagina of the baby. This is sooooo WRONG as it can damage the hymen.

Some parents also insert ginger or pepper or both into the vagina of adolescents as a form of punishment. This is sooooo WRONG as it can lead to infection.

Some people are use to bathing by adding dettol or other detergents to the water and they put this solution inside the vagina with the help of sponge or towel or just the hand with soap to clean the vagina. This is soooo WRONG as it will change the normal flora in the vagina, leading to infection.

5. Use of water closet
Some people have the habit of not sitting on the seat of the WC when using it so they end up urinating on the seat. The possibility of picking infection when using it in that condition is high. Don't let your pant be at the thigh level when using the WC especially the public ones as the inner of the pant may rub the surface of the WC.

Where the water is not running and people have used but have not flushed and you don't have any choice but to also use it, use enough toilet roll to cover before using the WC to avoid any splashes on the vulva.

6. Washing and drying
Develop the habit of disinfecting your panties frequently...depending on the number of pants you have. Keep exclusive panties to wear whenever you are menstruating and don't mix those panties with your regular panties.

Pay particular attention to those panties when washing. Ensure that the panties are made of cotton and are dried in the sun or well ironed to kill germs.

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7. Change sanitary pads
Some people try to economize the use of their sanitary pads so during the period they tend to still wear the pad because there is little or no blood. This is soooo WRONG as it can lead to infection.

NB: If there is any bad scent from the vagina or there is a discharge coming from the vagina then it might be an infection which you have to get it treated.

Help save the vagina by ensuring that you get the message to as many friends as possible. Help save the vagina by getting the message to your sexual partner or ladies.
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June 12, 2020

Engagement And It's Rules; All you need to know


ENGAGEMENT AND IT'S RULES

An engagement or betrothal is the relationship between two people who want to get married, and also the period of time between a marriage proposal and a marriage.

During this period, a couple is said to be fiancés betrothed,intended, affianced, engaged to be married, or simply engaged. Engagement, as a stage in the process leading to marriage, is greatly misunderstood in our day and age.

By and large, our Western culture generally devalues the importance and significance of engagement as a preparation time for marriage.
There was a time when both couples and their parents took engagement very seriously, but those days seem to be fading fast.
Engagement and it rules

In the minds of many, with love degraded to little more than sexual activity, and with so many unmarried couples living together and having babies out of wedlock, a formal period of engagement before marriage seems increasingly pointless, a quaint tradition of the past with little contemporary relevance.

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Indeed, with the institution of marriage itself under such fierce attack in many quarters, a formal period of preparation beforehand appears to many as all but meaningless.

The traditional view of engagement as serious business is well-founded in history. It is only in the last couple of generations that engagement has been all but dismissed as irrelevant. Modern society seems always on the lookout for new trends to follow and new standards by which to measure customs, attitudes, and behavior.

I'm sure we will all agree to this... that engagement in those days are not same with the engagement during this dispensation. Some even take it as a joke now. In addition to being an important time of preparation for marriage, engagement was, in effect, the first stage of marriage.

Biblical people who were engaged were regarded as already married, although not to the fullest degree. Full consummation of the marriage, such as living together and sexual union, did not occur until after the wedding ceremony and celebration.

The engagement period, which traditionally lasted up to a year then, was a time for both the man and the woman to make practical preparations for joining themselves to each other in the fullness of the marriage relationship.
Engagement was contract time, when the families of the couple came together and formally established the marriage covenant, agreeing to release their children to each other.

This was much more than the man and woman simply saying to each other, *“I commit myself to you.”* A binding contract was involved that could be terminated only by formal dissolution through divorce.
Things are very different today, although we still maintain a vestigial link to the past through the tradition of the man giving the woman an engagement ring as a symbol of his commitment to marry her.

At the wedding, a second ring, the wedding ring, is given as a symbol of exclusive commitment to each other for life in the marriage covenant. The engagement ring is a remnant, a reminder of the way things used to be, of a time when engagement was a much more serious affair than it is today. Nowadays engaged couples break up all the time. All a fellow has to do is say to the young lady, “I want my ring back.”

The young lady also can initiate the breakup by simply returning the ring. Usually there are many tears and a lot of hurt. A broken engagement can be very traumatic for both people because engagement was never designed to be terminated so easily.

Engagement is the period when the marriage covenant is established between a man and a woman. An ideal one

It is a time for deepening the friendship and spiritual oneness that they should have developed during their time of dating, as well as a time for growing in the practical, mental, and emotional areas the soulical part of their relationship.

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During engagement, the couple should be learning to think and act as one in anticipation of the day when, after the wedding, they consummate their union by joining together physically to become one flesh.
A common attitude among engaged couples today is, *We’re just testing the waters.*
That’s why we’re engaged. We want to see if our relationship will work out. Lolz

Engagement is not the time for testing the waters. That’s what the dating period is for. By the time a couple reaches the engagement stage, they should already have tested the waters.

They should already know whether or not their relationship is going to work out. Their engagement should not be a trial period but a public testimony stating, We have chosen each other to join together in marriage for life.

We are now in a time of making practical preparations to ensure that when the wedding day comes we will be ready in every way to help guarantee our success.
Engagement and it rules

Rules Of Engagement 

But I'm sure we really know what engagement mean and what exactly it entails now. Now to Engagement Rules.

1. The cost or quality of the engagement ring is not what determines the success of a marriage.

It's the level or quality of commitment from both parties that counts. Dont spend fortune on an expensive engagement ring when you're both not committed to making it work; its gross waste of resources. Don't fool yourself, be resourceful. 👌👌

2. Public proposals are sensational but so also is public embarrassment. Be sure you guys have talked things out and through before you stage a surprise engagement else you'll end up being the one in for a surprise at the end of the day.
However, the beauty of an engagement setup is still that element of surprise, plan with sense and with intellect.👌

3. Don't let your love for each other take a backseat for wedding preparations. Keep your conversation broader than just around the wedding planning. Use it as an exceptional time to lay a solid foundation for the rest of your shared life together.

In short, don't propose and let the love die.. some will go one neglecting their partner because to say I don propose., at least we are both sure we are getting marry. Let the love abound the more during this period.
Engagement and it rules

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Keep dating each other. Don't start to taking your relationship for granted because you are engaged. Dont stop wooing each other. The work is staying in love should continue throughout your lives and there is no better time to practice than while you are engaged.
4. Build good marital habits during this season of engagement. Sign up for a marriage course, most churches and organisations do organise this. Pay for counselling sessions if you have too, build this life.

This so much goes into merging two lives, and any time or money spend during this period is worth it.  All this preparation gives you clue to what marriage is all about and possible conflict and how to resolve or go about lots that might likely sprout up.

5. Be totally honest with your future spouse. This period is the time for discernment. It's the time to show the your future spouse who you really are.  It's the time to let your guard down. It's the time to let him see what you look like not wearing any makeup or those trainer and boobs lifter and bum protruder. 🌚🌚
Most importantly..

6. Be realistic in your expectations. These differences of opinion , interest, temperament and personality can be magnified In married life.

 Be sure you can embrace and love your future spouse the way they are now, not who you hope they will become someday. If you can't, it's safe to walk away.  A broken engagement is far better than a broken marriage.

7. Lastly... Engagement is not a license to continually bang him or her on bed; an practicing different styles.🌚🌚 Don't start wedding sex or sleeping around in the name of engagement. Decide on what suite you best.
Avoid a very long or too short engagement. To me, 6 months to 1 year is just good enough.

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