June 27, 2020

How To Keep My Vagina Save


To maintain a healthy vagina you must know what to do to avoid infection and it is equally important to educate your sexual partner on some of them to also help you help the vagina.
How to keep my vagina safe

Here are some few things you can do or avoid.

1. Fingering
During foreplay or romance, as part of it some people insert their finger or fingers into the vagina. The question is, how many people wash their hands before sexual intercourse?

 Some people do not even keep their nails clean so it gathers a lot of germs and during the fingering, these germs are deposited in the vagina...leading to infection. Same thing apply to autopleasure acts or masturbation.

2. Anal sex
I am not here to tell anybody to have anal sex or not to but I simply want to draw the attention of those who engage in anal sex with the opposite sex that it is dangerous to have anal sex and continue having penovaginal sex.

 If this is done, the penis will pick bacteria from the anus and deliver them to the vagina even if you are using a condom....which will lead to infection.
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3. Quest to make the vagina TIGHT
Some guys complain bitterly about the vagina of their sexual partners. They complain that it's too big and they no more feel any sensation during intercourse.

Some ladies are therefore pushed to find a quick solution and in the process some use herbs or other substances in the vagina with the hope of making the vagina tight. Some of the substances cause infection or sepsis.

Some of the herbs can cause the vagina to get tighter to the extent that penetration is no more possible. This will require treatment.

4. Douching
Some parents, when bathing for their baby girls put warm water in a milk tin or dip a towel in the warm water and pour the water through a hole made beneath the tin or squeeze the water out of the towel into the vagina of the baby. This is sooooo WRONG as it can damage the hymen.

Some parents also insert ginger or pepper or both into the vagina of adolescents as a form of punishment. This is sooooo WRONG as it can lead to infection.

Some people are use to bathing by adding dettol or other detergents to the water and they put this solution inside the vagina with the help of sponge or towel or just the hand with soap to clean the vagina. This is soooo WRONG as it will change the normal flora in the vagina, leading to infection.

5. Use of water closet
Some people have the habit of not sitting on the seat of the WC when using it so they end up urinating on the seat. The possibility of picking infection when using it in that condition is high. Don't let your pant be at the thigh level when using the WC especially the public ones as the inner of the pant may rub the surface of the WC.

Where the water is not running and people have used but have not flushed and you don't have any choice but to also use it, use enough toilet roll to cover before using the WC to avoid any splashes on the vulva.

6. Washing and drying
Develop the habit of disinfecting your panties frequently...depending on the number of pants you have. Keep exclusive panties to wear whenever you are menstruating and don't mix those panties with your regular panties.

Pay particular attention to those panties when washing. Ensure that the panties are made of cotton and are dried in the sun or well ironed to kill germs.

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7. Change sanitary pads
Some people try to economize the use of their sanitary pads so during the period they tend to still wear the pad because there is little or no blood. This is soooo WRONG as it can lead to infection.

NB: If there is any bad scent from the vagina or there is a discharge coming from the vagina then it might be an infection which you have to get it treated.

Help save the vagina by ensuring that you get the message to as many friends as possible. Help save the vagina by getting the message to your sexual partner or ladies.
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June 12, 2020

Engagement And It's Rules; All you need to know


An engagement or betrothal is the relationship between two people who want to get married, and also the period of time between a marriage proposal and a marriage.

During this period, a couple is said to be fiancรฉs betrothed,intended, affianced, engaged to be married, or simply engaged. Engagement, as a stage in the process leading to marriage, is greatly misunderstood in our day and age.

By and large, our Western culture generally devalues the importance and significance of engagement as a preparation time for marriage.
There was a time when both couples and their parents took engagement very seriously, but those days seem to be fading fast.
Engagement and it rules

In the minds of many, with love degraded to little more than sexual activity, and with so many unmarried couples living together and having babies out of wedlock, a formal period of engagement before marriage seems increasingly pointless, a quaint tradition of the past with little contemporary relevance.

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Indeed, with the institution of marriage itself under such fierce attack in many quarters, a formal period of preparation beforehand appears to many as all but meaningless.

The traditional view of engagement as serious business is well-founded in history. It is only in the last couple of generations that engagement has been all but dismissed as irrelevant. Modern society seems always on the lookout for new trends to follow and new standards by which to measure customs, attitudes, and behavior.

I'm sure we will all agree to this... that engagement in those days are not same with the engagement during this dispensation. Some even take it as a joke now. In addition to being an important time of preparation for marriage, engagement was, in effect, the first stage of marriage.

Biblical people who were engaged were regarded as already married, although not to the fullest degree. Full consummation of the marriage, such as living together and sexual union, did not occur until after the wedding ceremony and celebration.

The engagement period, which traditionally lasted up to a year then, was a time for both the man and the woman to make practical preparations for joining themselves to each other in the fullness of the marriage relationship.
Engagement was contract time, when the families of the couple came together and formally established the marriage covenant, agreeing to release their children to each other.

This was much more than the man and woman simply saying to each other, *“I commit myself to you.”* A binding contract was involved that could be terminated only by formal dissolution through divorce.
Things are very different today, although we still maintain a vestigial link to the past through the tradition of the man giving the woman an engagement ring as a symbol of his commitment to marry her.

At the wedding, a second ring, the wedding ring, is given as a symbol of exclusive commitment to each other for life in the marriage covenant. The engagement ring is a remnant, a reminder of the way things used to be, of a time when engagement was a much more serious affair than it is today. Nowadays engaged couples break up all the time. All a fellow has to do is say to the young lady, “I want my ring back.”

The young lady also can initiate the breakup by simply returning the ring. Usually there are many tears and a lot of hurt. A broken engagement can be very traumatic for both people because engagement was never designed to be terminated so easily.

Engagement is the period when the marriage covenant is established between a man and a woman. An ideal one

It is a time for deepening the friendship and spiritual oneness that they should have developed during their time of dating, as well as a time for growing in the practical, mental, and emotional areas the soulical part of their relationship.

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During engagement, the couple should be learning to think and act as one in anticipation of the day when, after the wedding, they consummate their union by joining together physically to become one flesh.
A common attitude among engaged couples today is, *We’re just testing the waters.*
That’s why we’re engaged. We want to see if our relationship will work out. Lolz

Engagement is not the time for testing the waters. That’s what the dating period is for. By the time a couple reaches the engagement stage, they should already have tested the waters.

They should already know whether or not their relationship is going to work out. Their engagement should not be a trial period but a public testimony stating, We have chosen each other to join together in marriage for life.

We are now in a time of making practical preparations to ensure that when the wedding day comes we will be ready in every way to help guarantee our success.
Engagement and it rules

Rules Of Engagement 

But I'm sure we really know what engagement mean and what exactly it entails now. Now to Engagement Rules.

1. The cost or quality of the engagement ring is not what determines the success of a marriage.

It's the level or quality of commitment from both parties that counts. Dont spend fortune on an expensive engagement ring when you're both not committed to making it work; its gross waste of resources. Don't fool yourself, be resourceful. ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ

2. Public proposals are sensational but so also is public embarrassment. Be sure you guys have talked things out and through before you stage a surprise engagement else you'll end up being the one in for a surprise at the end of the day.
However, the beauty of an engagement setup is still that element of surprise, plan with sense and with intellect.๐Ÿ‘Œ

3. Don't let your love for each other take a backseat for wedding preparations. Keep your conversation broader than just around the wedding planning. Use it as an exceptional time to lay a solid foundation for the rest of your shared life together.

In short, don't propose and let the love die.. some will go one neglecting their partner because to say I don propose., at least we are both sure we are getting marry. Let the love abound the more during this period.
Engagement and it rules

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Keep dating each other. Don't start to taking your relationship for granted because you are engaged. Dont stop wooing each other. The work is staying in love should continue throughout your lives and there is no better time to practice than while you are engaged.
4. Build good marital habits during this season of engagement. Sign up for a marriage course, most churches and organisations do organise this. Pay for counselling sessions if you have too, build this life.

This so much goes into merging two lives, and any time or money spend during this period is worth it.  All this preparation gives you clue to what marriage is all about and possible conflict and how to resolve or go about lots that might likely sprout up.

5. Be totally honest with your future spouse. This period is the time for discernment. It's the time to show the your future spouse who you really are.  It's the time to let your guard down. It's the time to let him see what you look like not wearing any makeup or those trainer and boobs lifter and bum protruder. ๐ŸŒš๐ŸŒš
Most importantly..

6. Be realistic in your expectations. These differences of opinion , interest, temperament and personality can be magnified In married life.

 Be sure you can embrace and love your future spouse the way they are now, not who you hope they will become someday. If you can't, it's safe to walk away.  A broken engagement is far better than a broken marriage.

7. Lastly... Engagement is not a license to continually bang him or her on bed; an practicing different styles.๐ŸŒš๐ŸŒš Don't start wedding sex or sleeping around in the name of engagement. Decide on what suite you best.
Avoid a very long or too short engagement. To me, 6 months to 1 year is just good enough.

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May 30, 2020

How Can I Love My Man?

HOW CAN I LOVE MY MAN? Things to do.

Loving a man is not an easy thing. Whether he's your husband or the boyfriend you're falling for, it's important to know how to make your man feel emotionally and physically satisfied while staying true to yourself at the same time. If you want to truly love a man, then you've got to know how to make him feel loved and appreciated while also respecting his independence and also your own. 
How can I love my man

These are the recipes on how to love your man. Let us start with this..

As a lady, make efforts for your man too, go miles for him, in as much he does for you too. Ask him how his day went, don't just wait until he talks. Saying since you don't talk I'm not asking any fucking questions. Stop those childs play, ask him what went wrong during the day.

Love him hard as well, unless you're with that guy for sare wagba, or due to some things maybe unknown to me, love him as jesus loves the church, and spice it up erotically๐Ÿ˜.

And to add to this, be patient with him, men are human and equally emotional. Be patient and also be reasonable, not everytime drama with fast and furious voice. Do and calm down lady, learn to exercise this, if you really want to love that guy.. Reciprocate all these.

Give him this freedom to do the things that he likes. Don't box him or chock him to the neck. If he's acting in a way you don't like, call him to order and talk about it, not just talk to him in a nagging way, it won't change anything, and he will definitely go ahead doing those things you still don't like. But remember, if he truly loves you, he won't do things that will hurt you.  

He has a life to live sweetheart, so don't choke him and don't take that away from him. You're not his own world, he's a separate entity, but you're part of his world. So give room for that partnership to flow without rancor.

Remember he will never be perfect, because he's not a perfect being. So don't expect perfection from him.
So, at some point he will be inconsistent, and sometimes impatient, just chill for one corner, just smile and keep mute, sip your drinks.

You will agree with me, that sometimes it will hard for him to handle your moodswing, he's likely to get angry at you sometimes, and his mood too can change as well. Reason is that, he's not also perfect,  so have this at the back of your mind and prepare yourself to understand him.
How can I love my man

You have to respect him, does not matter the age difference, level or rank you are. Respect is reciprocal, and it should also be mutual.
So respect his choices and decisions. When you're not please with any of his decisions, have a place of togetherness, and have a good approach to handle and sort things out amicably.

At times, your man might go on, to do those things at your back, but when it backfires, next time he tends to respect your take too. Give him the respect that he deserves, even when you dim fit why should I.

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Like you, he needs your attention too, same way you think you deserve them. Don't get too busy for your man, or don't give those I want to make my self unavailable, putting on moody attitudes and I won't pick up his calls saga so he can miss me and know my worth. Mummy wa, ko necessetry now.

He just need your reassurance as well the's the only one for you. Let this be a daily thing, because men most time keep to themselves and lot flows through their minds, when he talks and when he doesn't,  reassure.

This will negate him having a feeling of doubt towards you, because the attention and care is embedded here. And babe, don't give him reasons to doubt you. Don't act like me too have gotten guys chasing me up, talking romantically with them on or off their presence, let me do my thing in my own way thing... But o wrong now, you don't need it. 

There will never be a perfect man same applicable to woman. At some point, you will get disappointed and upset because he didn't behave or become that man you expect him to be.
Lolz๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜, this do cause lot of kasala, but sister,  calm down and handle this with care.
Just because you love him you should accept every bits of him, not the bad and toxic behaviour though. But if you think that man worth the risk, keep him, no perfect individual out there.

Sometimes,  we want to be understand so much , that we forget to understand men as well. Take your time to know the man you're in love with.
If you're a lover of the bible/Quran, study and meditate on him, same way you do to those scriptures. And if you're the jayejaye lady, all those strength you put on your paparazzi, channel it on him to know him more too.

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As a lady, try to learn about some secret obsession every man has inside of him. Learn more about this and start creating strong and long lasting relationships with your man.

Timmy Offering♤♧
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May 25, 2020

LIFE BEFORE RELATIONSHIP; All you need to know before going into a Relationship.


We are not new to the word relationship..
Even a Neonate and toddler if asked, can tell you one or more salient things about relationship.

Relationship can made you whole and can destroy one life.. depending on how you handle it and things you know about it in order to stabilise it.
And we all know life itself as what we re on earth to live with.. what our goals and focus should be is all we want to achieve in life.
Life before relationship

So if care is not taken. If one missed it in marriage relationship, then it can affect ones life for ever. And you will agree, the choice of your partner has a long way to go, in you also making it in life.
But this days.. majority of youth or people are not even after the productive life of a thing... all they think or want is just the relationship, some think since I'm old enough or I'm done with secondary school.. I can date, I can have a lover and things should start from there.

The priority of an individual is productive life first, getting to know your goal and passion. Know who you are first, what are your weaknesses and your strengths, your personality and your temperament, your zodiac signs and lot more.
Although falling in love is easy, perhaps too easy, relationships take work.

A lot of work. It's nice to think that you can sail through them with the same ease that you sailed through the falling in love process.

There is some very important groundwork you should lay before getting into a relationship with someone,"

In other words, there are things you want to cover in order to get that groundwork laid down securely. So exactly what should you do before you get into a relationship with someone, that is if you want to make it last?

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From timing and expectations to evaluating your religious identity and leaving the past behind, lot of salient keys to understand before you get into a relationship with someone.

Get your priorities right, your education is far more important, don't risk it for a relationship, because education is part of your life.

Don't be sway away by relationship and fail your preferred courses in school.

Don't allow puberty infatuation lead you astray.
When you get it right first with yourself ,the so-call partner will locate you and the chemistry will flow well than what you even least expect at first.

If you think getting into a relationship will make you “whole” or “complete,” think again.

So many people enter into a relationship thinking the other person will have the ability to make them happy, when in reality happiness starts from within.
If you want a healthy, long-lasting relationship get your self a life that worth emulating first.

Firstly, you must understand the magnitude of a relationship. 

Let me break it down: what it is and what it means for you.
Then you have to do some real soul searching:
๐Ÿ‘Are you ready for the sacrifices,
๐Ÿ‘the energy, and effort.
๐Ÿ‘ Once you’ve done all of that, the last thing you should do is make room in your life for them.
๐Ÿ‘Get rid of the habits, lingering situations, and friends who won’t be conducive to your relationship.

Yes, relationships are cute. You get to face every adversity and tackle every one of life’s puzzles with a partner.

But in turn, that comes with certain compromises to the current life as you know it.

It’s easy to get so enthused about the idea of a relationship that we don’t take into account the shift our actual lives go through.

Our hearts may be ready for a relationship, but that does not always mean our lives are.

Long distance, a demanding workload, school — there are countless oppositions to a relationship that is out of our control.
But it is our responsibility to evaluate our lives in a way to make that responsible decision.

But all this narrowed down to when you have search and gotten yourself right too, your purpose and goal on track, if not fulfilled.
Why try and force a relationship when you know you don’t even have time to commit to owning a time to even your self or fulfillment of life it self?

Furthermore, we have to honestly assess our motivations.

What’s more of a priority to you, her or that work position?

You can really want something with that guy or lady, but will you resent the time it takes away from studying for that CPA exam? Or your work or the your goal finding?

For you to be successful your timing is necessary, so it's not only about the relationship but about the time to balance things.

Yes, going into a relationship with this special person would be the right thing to do. But there are certain factors you need to note before starting out.
Let us give in rapt attention here...๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘

1. Become Who You Want to Be.

Step one is to ask yourself if you are the person you wanted to be growing up. What attitudes do you admire in other people?
What are your personal weaknesses? Make a list if you have to of all the personality traits you would like to have and get to work cultivating them. Practice makes perfect.

Its is called working on one self..that is the first life an individual should know and get
If you dont do this, failing or heartbreak is inevitable in that relationship.

2. Become Self Aware.

How do your actions affect others? What are some things that you need to work on?
Try to do this without being too critical. Outside of a relationship, what kind of person are you? What kind of partner are you when you’re in a relationship?

These questions are important to ask before you enter something serious. Knowing yourself inside and out will only help build a better foundation with your partner. It’s not just about getting to know another person, it’s about getting to know yourself too.

3. Create an Amazing Life

If you aren’t excited about the life you are living why would anyone else want to be a part of it?
Do things that make you happy and get you excited for each new day. Find things to look forward to and share them with the people around you. Make your life looks like enough fun. If you're a boring individual why will you also go for someone boring too, get to equipped that life, read books, attend seminars that that boost you up and help your life..
Life before relationship

4. Pursue Your Passions  and Make Them a Priority

It’s incredibly helpful to already be on the path of pursuing your passions when you enter a relationship.

I count myself among the lucky few who have a clear career path and life goals in mind and am in the process of obtaining them.
But we all know that life doesn’t necessarily work that way. Whether you are in the midst of working towards your goals, or just discovering what they are, or just pursue them on the side for personal gratification, whatever makes you tick should not be pushed aside when you enter a relationship, or at any point during the course of it.

When the “we” mentality starts to take over it’s easy to put your passions, desires, and dreams, on hold. Don’t!

It’s completely doable to find a healthy balance. Whatever you were passionate about before you entered your relationship is still there, having a partner just adds an amazing person to your corner to cheer you on. And, if they don’t support your dreams and passions, they are not worth your time.

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5. Inclined with passion is Goals.
It’s not enough to know what your goals are. You’ll want to have an actionable plan when it comes to achieving them. The right partner will help you achieve those goals, but you knowing those goals is the pivotal thing my dear.

Sometimes your aspirations can get lost in the mix of a new relationship if care is not taken.

6. Leave the Past in the Past or check your baggage

Everyone has had things happen to them that they would rather forget, but not everyone has baggage. Memories only become baggage if you dwell on them and refuse to move on.

What are you holding onto? How does it affect your ability to love and be loved? The common saying, “check your baggage at the door” is often easier said than done.

Your past traumas, experiences, and relationships absolutely affect your current one. Healing isn’t linear, and even if you know how these experiences affect you, sometimes it’s still difficult to leave them out of your current equation.

Learn to let go of the people who are no longer in your life and forget the ones who let you down. Move on and set your sights on the horizon. Move on, don't look at the family past, or how your parents relationship ended or not glowing or if it's about someone close by.

Remember we all got different journeys and life. Your life is different, so also is your relationship life.

7. Get Organized.

When you feel like you are in control of your life you will be more confident and more attractive. Organize everything. Be self confident, bold and courageous. Take care of yourself and look cute and lovely. If you get little apartment, make them look neat and dope, the little things or clothes you get, make them ironed and look gorgeous.

Trim down your friends list too. Those who are not productive to your life, let them go.

No one wants to be in a relationship with a panicky scatterbrain and dull individual, spice your speech up and things about you. Get it together, man/woman.

8. Learn to Accept Other People
One of the toughest things you learn in life is that other people don’t exist to satisfy your expectations of them. Accept other people for who they are and learn to embrace their flaws.

A good relationship is one where both people can feel comfortable and at home. Judging people is a great way to get them headed for the door.

9.Timing to go into relationship.  
Be convince enough to, discern wisely, get to know that person.

Have you attained something reasonable? What are the things that relationship will fetch you, and what are the things you're ready to give too.? Dont just go into relationship because waoo, she has boobs, chaiii ukwu, or I love the beard gengs guy.. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚
Also on Time
Relationships take time. Getting to know someone takes time. If you are in the middle of a college degree and working part-time, or if you are in the midst of a strenuous career, you might not have the extra hours to dedicate to getting to know someone.

This may well be one of the most important factors in letting someone into your life.

This point please ๐Ÿ•บ๐Ÿ•บ

10.Improve Your Communication Skills.

Another skill that benefits all aspects of your life. Sometimes relationships are awkward and you have conversations that leave you wanting to open mouth anywhere else than that moment.

Being able to communicate your wants, needs, and what can be improved are the building blocks of a healthy, lasting relationship. Lack of communication creates rifts of misunderstanding and sometimes puts your wants and needs on the back burner.

Being able to articulate clearly what exactly you mean is an admirable trait, and will create a strong foundation to any relationship, not just romantic.

So before I go..
Brother and sister in the Lord.๐Ÿ˜‚Lovers of boo and bae.
Build yourself a solid foundation that will attract life and souls, have self grooming, let those vision and purpose, dreams be on your map. Start a work on them.

Don't let anyone sway you away with I love you, I love you thing.. ask some salient questions on dates, get yourself some reasonable standards and principles so when the right person cross your path. You will know them..

In Relationship be Careful, Watchful and Vigilant @OTR
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May 6, 2020

MASTURBATION; What you need to know, it effects and way out

MASTURBATION; What you need to know, it effects and way out.

Masturbation is fondling your genitals consistently to achieve orgasm. Ladies may stroke their clitoris while guys rub, massage or caress their penis.

Masturbation is completely wrong and not the way out. Most marriage is suffering because of result gotten from Masturbation....

I have few persons here that can't do without masturbate one of them a matured lady I love them and am working out things to kill that pleasure...I like there boldness telling me.

Do you know why I said it's bad?

๐Ÿ‘‰ For ladies, while inserting all manner of objects, you may mistakenly deflower yourself and also introduce infection into your genitals and womb. It will be very difficult to convince your future partner that you never had sex with man except objects during your solo sex.

๐Ÿ‘‰ You kill your ability to enjoy sex in future. Millions of women don't enjoy sex in marriage which leads to sexual frustration, adultery, lesbianism and feminism. If you are used to getting orgasm by yourself, you won't be able to get it from your husband. If you are used to objects in your private part, you won't have feelings for your husband's penis.

You will always think of something harder, bigger, longer, larger and completely unrealistic! Women who complain their husbands' penis are too small didn't marry as virgins. They must have been promiscous as singles..

๐Ÿ‘‰ You will not have a good sex life as a man. You will experience pre-mature ejaculation and your wife won't enjoy you leading to acute sexual frustration in marriage. You need self control to fully enjoy sex and give your wife maximum sexual pleasure. A woman enjoys sex when the man can go on for at least 7 minutes before ejaculating.

 Because you are used to instant release from masturbation, you may not be able to go more than a minute before exploding leaving your wife completely unsatisfied and frustrated. She may close up, become frigid and stop having sex altogether which may lead to you having an affair, she having an affair or both of you having an affair.

Self control before marriage helps you enjoy sex to the maximum. You are able to delay ejaculation, go on for a long time and have excellent orgasm while giving your wife pleasure too. That is why total virginity pays!

๐Ÿ‘‰ If you do not suffer premature ejaculation, you may have serious problem with delayed/ retarded ejaculation.
A situation where you get erection for several hours without ejaculation or orgasm. What is the benefit of sex without orgasm? Rough masturbation with your hands kills your ability to feel/enjoy sex with your wife. It is hell for a woman to be under a man who thrusts in for hours unable to ejaculate.
How will the woman get pregnant? It's the reason some women are seemingly "barren" and can't talk to anybody out of embarrassment. Thrusting hard for so long leaves the woman sore, frustrated and hating sex altogether.

You have so much to lose sexually when you masturbate. Abstaining from this degrading act helps you feel relaxed, confident, have normal sexual intercourse and enjoy the pleasures that comes with sex IN MARRIAGE!

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Consequences Of Masturbation.

๐Ÿ‘‰ You start having sex in the dream with a known or unknown person (demonic entities other wise known as spiritual spouse).

๐Ÿ‘‰ You feel drained, dirty, empty, useless and powerless after each act.

๐Ÿ‘‰ You start getting unsatisfied and wants the real thing. You fantasize more about sex and start longing for the real act.

๐Ÿ‘‰ You get a warped view of the opposite sex. You see them as sexual objects and start having sex with anything in skirt or trousers -you become promiscous.

๐Ÿ‘‰ You get damaged, hurt and broken.

These and more are the consequences of masturbation. They damage you and shatter you to pieces!
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What then should you do with your sexual urge? How do you handle the constant hunger for sex?

1. Avoid all dirty pictures, pornography videos, pictures and hot, romantic movies -they are powerful sexual triggers!

2. Avoid friends who say dirty,lewd and obscene things. Stop all sexy banters with friends and say only things that are pure, holy, needful and helpful.

3. Get busy with your life, education and career, there is more to life than sex.

4. Transmute your sexual energy: Channel your sexual energy into something great.

5.Avoid pornography and romantic movies.

Masturbation is wrong, bad, demonic, destructive and sinful. Avoid it and end it with speed if you are deeply involved in it.

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April 25, 2020

Wrong Criteria For Choosing A Partner; Know Them


 Most reason why most relationship shipwrecked is due to fact that: Either we don't choose right  or we used the wrong criteria to choose.
There are some criterion most of our relationship are built on but are not supposed to:.. in the world today most relationship are built on *physical appearance, social status, intellectual ability and financial ability.

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Wrong criteria for choosing a partner

1. Physical attraction: This goes so far, if couples build their relationship on such  a standard, its detrimental. So tell me what happens when physical beauty begins to fade, gorgeous hair turns grey or alopecia/ loss of hair..

Most guys will tell you, I want a lady with boobs, chaiii, so that I will be caressing it and sucking it.. what will happen when those standing alert boobs turn slipper one..?๐Ÿคท๐Ÿป‍♂

Or I want the athletic abs, what gonna happen when he start having botbelly๐Ÿ˜…. If we want a happy, long term relationship, we should look far more beyond physical appearance/ simply physical attraction

2. Social Status; About social status, majority especially woman want their partner to provide them with everything needed in the society.. so they want to marry into a good family with money๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿ˜…, a well respected family and influential individual...

All these can change often quickly, all it takes is a downturn in economy or a mistake in a poor investment to knock some down the socialladder.
Go with the purpose inclined with yours and not solely because of social status.

3. Intellectual Ability; Some choose because of intellectual ability, educational prowess of an individual.. I must marry a doctor or its nurse I must marry... ghen ghen๐Ÿ˜Œ.
What course does he study? Is he a graduate?? Is he an engineer? An oil mogul ??.

All this does not depict them giving you the needed attention or care in that marriage.. look beyond this

4. Financial Ability; The paramount one is the financial ability.. it's more important.  When you base choosing a partner on his or her financial means.. then you are on your own..

Can she support me with her money?.. can he take care of me?.. these are legitimate questions person in need of a lasting relationship ask.. but such individual must be careful they are prepared for the financial realities of married life. Financial means alone is not basis going into relationship or getting married.

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Note; Our primary concern should not be how some look or what he or she does but what kind of person that person is..... appearance are deceiving.๐Ÿ’ฅ๐Ÿ’ฅ
All these a things we look for but they temporary, any of them can change in an instant

Individual here are born with talents and gifts but character must be developed and cultivated also nurtured over time.
So it's far more important to get to know that person before getting into a serious relationship .. stay with them long enough and the character will begin to show through. Be alert that outward behaviour is the reflection of his character

Solid character will reflect itself in consistent behaviour, while the poor character will seek to hide behind deceptive words and actions... pay close attention to this

Before you can do this, identify the qualities and character that you will hold as standard without compromise and then evaluate the potential candidate or incoming you meet with those standards of yours.

A woman may be beautiful but have poor character.. A man mayb cute, a business genius, making money all round but lacks common courtesy, sensitivity and compassion...
If we know the qualities and character that we re looking for in a mate, it will be much easier for us to recognize that person whenever he or she comes along.. and that depends the stay.

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April 20, 2020

[For Ladies] Vagina Care: How To Care For It And Why You Must Not Neglect It

 Vagina Care: How To Care For It And Why You Must Not Neglect It

The vagina is designed to keep itself clean with natural, healthy vaginal secretions. You can keep your vagina healthy with the same things that keep your whole body healthy with regular hygiene and a good diet.

The effect of lack of vagina care

It is not until you have vaginal infection before your coochie can smell. If you don't bath or properly wash the folds of the labia, covering of the clit, the smegma (an oil substance) which accumulates can get acted upon by bacteria and the stench from it would be severe.

So, there's something we call smegma. It is an oily substance secreted by the sebaceous glands of the clitoris and the folds labia in women but is also secreted in men (wait for it in our next post).

Ordinarily, smegma helps keeping the clitoris and labia lubricated so that they don't undergo premature desertification and lose their immense influence. Cool stuff right?

But don't get too excited yet. Smegma can become a problem when then it accumulates (forming a white, cheese like deposit under the covering of the clitoris and in between the forms of labia) and gets acted upon by bacteria.

When this happens the resulting stench from the unholy alliance between smegma and bacteria can be quite serious.

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So here is a quick tips for ladies...when you are washing or cleaning up, look out of the folds of labia. Open the folds and clean.
Also you can gently also retract gently retract of the clitoris and wipe off any deposits of smegma that has accumulated.

You can use mildly warm water to wash the VULVA(not the vagina o, vulva and vagina are different please)

The point is you don't have to contract STI or have bacterial vaginosis or any other vaginal infection before your yoni smells awful.

If you allow smegma to build by not bathing or cleaning up regularly, it smell offensive.

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April 16, 2020

Effective Communication, Effective Tool In Marriage Relationship


To kick off, let’s talk about what true communication means in an intimate relationship:
Communication is simply the act of transferring information from one place, person or group to another. Which means there must be:*

A sender = the message = the receiver

The transmission of the message from the sender to the receiver can be affected by many things like emotions, background, tone, medium or even mood.
Effective communication, effective tool in marriage relationship

Communication can take place as spoken/verbal using words or non-verbal using body language (our body language is always communicating whether we mean it or not), gestures, facial expressions, actions or written using letters, emails, chats, social media, books or visualizations using pictures, logos, graphs etc.

๐Ÿ‘"Communication is the mortar that holds a relationship together," says relationship expert Dr. Amy Bellows. "If it breaks down, the relationship will crumble. When spouses no longer communicate, a marriage nurtures no one. It is no longer a marriage."

What engine is to car is what communication is to marriage.
Let’s take a look at the basic elements of Communication:

If you must effectively communicate with your spouse, then you must capture the following:

*SLUR* is an acronym for Speak, Listen, Understand and Respond. There is no effective communication without these four elements.

Learn to *SPEAK* in love, at the right time.

Learn how to *LISTEN* attentively. Don't interrupt your spouse when he/she is speaking. Listen also to what's not said. Pay attention to your spouse's body language too.
๐Ÿ”ฅLet’s talk a bit more about listening because this seems to be where we have lots of issues:

One of the most important communication skills is listening. Deep, positive relationships can only be developed by listening to each other.

Listening to respond is the standard way that most people communicate. What that means is that instead of really paying attention to what the other person is saying, you are already thinking about what you want to say in response.

Of course it’s great to have a well-thought-out reply, but if you’re thinking about what you want to say instead of hearing what the other person is saying, you aren’t really listening and communicating well.
 Learn how to UNDERSTAND your spouse properly by using the principle of mirroring.
Say something like this: “So, what I hear you saying is …” or, “Are you saying …?” Then, in your own words, tell your spouse what you understand to have been said. Then, the most important part of mirroring comes. You must allow your spouse to either affirm or correct what you’ve said.

*Learn to RESPOND rightly.*
When Speaking, Listening and Understanding are in place, the Response element is usually not the problem.

 The way you react falls in one of four response types:
Let’s say your spouse comes home excited about his/her power-point presentation at work:

 *Nurturing (active constructive)* “That is great! I’m so happy for you! Tell me more about it!”

 *Cold (passive constructive)* “Oh, that is good”

 *Ignorant (passive destructive)* “Sorry I don’t have time to listen to you right now”

 *Hurtful (active destructive)* “That’s surprising, you’re usually pretty bad at delivering presentations”
*So which group are you? Tell me the truth o*๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€

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Let's take a look at Communication issues (common mistakes couples make when communicating):

๐Ÿ”ธYelling at your partner

๐Ÿ”ธNot listening to understand each other

๐Ÿ”ธBlaming Each Other

๐Ÿ”ธDegrading your Partner

๐Ÿ”ธThinking About your Point of View Only

๐Ÿ”ธJudging what the other person is saying

๐Ÿ”ธBeing insensitive to your spouse’s complaint or feelings

๐Ÿ”ธReactive communication – everyone is talking and no one is listening
๐Ÿ”ธSome people believe the more they repeat their complaints, the more their spouses will listen and act – wrong

๐Ÿ”ธHarsh communication (tone and expressions) – this is non-productive, it stirs up strive.

๐Ÿ”ธBeing dishonest – even as little as saying you’re okay when you’re not

๐Ÿ”ธSilent communication – the silent treatment never works, it just escalates things

๐Ÿ”ธDealing with conflict in public – this shows dishonour to your spouse/partner.

๐Ÿ”ธAssumptions – assuming your spouse did something and dwelling on it instead of asking him/her

๐Ÿ”ธAbusive communication – calling names , fool , stupid etc. I call it fighting dirty – it never works
Effective communication, effective tool in marriage relationship

Let’s discuss how bad communication can affect your relationship/marriage:

 1. You don’t look to each other for support and companionship

This might not sound like a big problem, but it really is. When you’re in relationship/married you should be the first person that each of you turns to for support, for help, for companionship and respect. When that is lacking then you may turn to somebody else out of necessity, and this doesn’t often end well – it always leads to bigger issues.
It can truly be frustrating when one spouse does not create a safe environment for effective communication

And truly the way to deal with this is to:

1. Have a heart to heart conversation with him/her (the online course will show you how)

2. Get him/her to enroll for courses like this and learn to do better

3. Go for counseling together
This may be the toughest but most likely the surest to work.

 2. Lack of communication in marriage/ relationship leads to lack of intimacy:  which can lead to divorce sometimes when there is nothing left to share, to talk about between two partners:

Everyone goes through rough times, but if you are aware of this and you make good communication a priority in your marriage then you will stay connected and ensure that you don’t head down the wrong path by losing each other.

Effects of lack of communication in relationship/marriage can be devastating to your relationship. It is important to identify and rectify all your communication problems in relationship/marriage before things fall apart between you and your partner.

3. Your work, home, and sex life will all suffer when you do not share your thoughts and feelings with your partner.
This makes it all the more important to learn to communicate with your spouse, even when the subject matter is awkward or uncomfortable.

4.Lack of good communication can also lead to money problems.
Money can be a touchy subject for most people. This topic may feel a little awkward to broach, especially if you are in the process of merging your finances or haven’t told your partner about any debts you owe. Whether you’re sharing a bank account or keeping your finances separate, it is still important to talk about your monthly expenses.

Couples/partners who do not talk about money matters may overspend, feel held back by not being the breadwinner, and end up in deeper debts than when they were single.
It is important for couples to discuss budgeting and to be open about their debts and expenses.

5. You become emotionally distant
The less you communicate with your spouse, the more emotionally distant you will become.
Talking is how you connect with your spouse. When there is a lack of communication in marriage, love also starts to fade.
One study on the behavior of couples, conducted over 40 years, found that the most common communication problems revolve around partner’s refusing to communicate (silent treatment), partner criticism, defensive communication, and overall contempt when trying to talk to one another – and these are called the 4 divorce predictors –

6. Results in wrong assumptions
When couples/partners are not open with one another it can be easy for them to start making assumptions. If you aren’t letting your spouse know you’ll be late at the office or are heading out with your friends after work instead of coming home they may assume you are doing something you shouldn’t be.

7. Your sex life suffers in marriage
There are many sexual problems that arise when there is a lack of communication in marriage.
For example, a lack of orgasm may result in frustration and can cause hostility and disappointment. Or one person may desire sex but feels incapable of making the first move. This can be frustrating for both spouses.

Couples need to have open and honest conversations about their intimate life and preferences..Sexual frequency, fantasies, needs, and turn-ons are all important conversations you need to have in order to create an equally satisfying sexual relationship.

8. You seek others to fill the void:

It is no surprise that a lack of communication in relationship/marriage is one of the leading causes of divorce. Couples who don’t talk to one another are nothing more than roommates.
Drawing away from your spouse in thought or action can be extremely damaging.
Feeling a lack of validation or that your spouse does not hear you or care for your needs can be discouraging.
This lack of respect and love can create insecurities, which might cause one spouse to seek someone outside of the marriage to fill what they feel their marriage is lacking.

Importance Of Communication In Promoting Healthy Relationship
How I helped clients work through their communication issues and some of the advices I gave them that worked:

๐Ÿ”ธStay Calm While Discussing:
While discussing some important points just stay calm and control your anger.
Remember better communication will lead to better relationships and marriage.
This way, you will have effective communication and can also understand each other’s point of view. When you are angry you cannot even present the true facts.

๐Ÿ”ธAvoid reading your spouse's mind:
This can only lead to assumptions. Allow your spouse tell you what's on their mind.

๐Ÿ”ธ Touching your spouse when communicating can do you both a whole lot of good.
Especially when having a deep conversation about an issue. A difficult time to apply this principle is after an argument has begun. Don't ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚
However, a perfect time is when you know you are about to sit down and have a discussion about something that might lead to tension.

You know what those deep topics are in your marriage/relationship. Maybe it’s a conversation about a specific child. Maybe it’s your in-laws or your finances or your low sex life.
Touching your spouse when communicating in a way avoids conflict and allows you two to be loving in your conversation.
A few of my clients tried this and returned with so much to laugh about.. Great positive reviews came from this technique. Would you try it today and let me know how it goes?

๐Ÿ”ธHave Frequent Discussions:
Most of the couples talk less and that problem is known as “Lack of communication in marriage”.
Have communication frequently on a daily basis. Discuss your daily problems and their possible solutions. This is one key to effective communication in a marriage.

๐Ÿ”ธFinally - to build an effective communication flow in your relationship/marriage, both of you must learn how to express negative feelings effectively. Most times we are quicker to express negative feelings than positive ones.

It is vital to the health of your relationship/marriage that you affirm your spouse more often than you share your negative feelings. So if you share negative feelings 5 times a week then the positive feelings should be 5times of that. YES you heard me๐Ÿ˜€. If your compliments exceed your complaints, your spouse will pay attention to your grievances.
_If your complaints exceed your compliments, your criticism will fall on deaf ears. As simple as that._

Lot of clients tried it.. it works.

Be careful, conscious and Vigilant (OTR)
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