November 14, 2019

What Really Brings Intimacy In Relationship?

WHAT REALLY BRINGS INTIMACY IN RELATIONSHIP?

๐Ÿ’ What is Intimacy?
Intimacy Simply means becoming ONE.
Intimacy is what brings about mutual vulnerability, openness and effective communication in your relationship/marriage.
๐Ÿ’ Sex is not intimacy as you can have sex with anyone without sharing intimacy with the person yeah. Sex is intercourse.
๐Ÿ’ The thing is, God may have made you (and your spouse) for each other, but you must understand each other before you can succeed.
It is not enough that you are meant for each other, you must understand where you complement each other.
What really brings intimacy in relationship
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Spouse is supposed to compliment you in the areas of your life that you need help and that makes for one formidable team.
๐Ÿ’ I'll like to say that; if communication is the engine that powers the relationship between a  husband and wife, intimacy is the oil that lubricates it

So without the oil what happens to the engine?
Oh yeah same thing happens to your marriage when there is no intimacy. It Knocks!!


TYPES OF INTIMACY 

๐Ÿ’ Physical or Emotional Intimacy:
Is the level of intimacy where the couple understands each other’s feelings. Your spouse does not need to say a word before you understand how he/she is feeling.
You can walk into your home and know there's something up with your spouse without he/she having to draw your attention (verbally) to it.

๐Ÿ’ Spiritual Intimacy:
 Is also a higher level of communication and understanding on spiritual matters. One way to notice spiritual intimacy is your communication with God on matters concerning your marriage and the household.

๐Ÿ’ Social Intimacy:
This is enjoying each other’s company. And being each other's companion.
If you hate to be around each other or can’t get along, it is a sign that you are not building social intimacy with your spouse๐Ÿ˜

๐Ÿ’ Intellectual Intimacy:
This is the level of intimacy at which you respect each other’s intellect whether you appreciate it or not.
For instance, I am a Phlegmatic-melancholy by character trait, but my husband is Choleric-Sanguine and that is very evident in the way we think.
I like to take my time but think outside the box, don't rush me to get things done.. But my husband is a fast thinker and wants to make his decisions here and now..
That process of thinking fascinated me at the beginning of our relationship, but that quickly became a nightmare after we got married๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€ like slow down man!
This continued until we learned to respect each other’s intellect. I may not understand it, but I sure do respect it now and sometimes, we even trade places๐Ÿ˜€. It's a fun place to get to in your relationship/marriage.
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๐Ÿ’ Money Intimacy:
There's nothing as rewarding as when couples come to term with the mindset of "my money, our money; his/her money, our money"
It builds some kind of special intimacy in your marriage.
Please note: in seeking Money Intimacy terms and conditions apply๐Ÿ˜ make sure you both have a good and healthy relationship with money or at least let the most healthy-money spouse deal with the finances.
๐Ÿ’ When couples are intimate in all these areas, the result is always magical. 
That’s when you call your spouse on the phone, and he/she says, “I just picked up the phone to call you”, or I was just thinking about you. Some call it telepathy but the real thing is that the soul is becoming one.

Now to why we are here tonight ๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿผ

๐Ÿ’ What brings intimacy to your relationship/marriage?


๐Ÿ”นThe committment to keep watering your garden (relationship/marriage)

๐Ÿ”น Seeking to understand your spouse rather than being understood all the time.

๐Ÿ”น When you wake up every day with the mindset of how you can out-serve your spouse.

๐Ÿ”นRomancing your visions and life goals and creating one for your relationship/marriage

๐Ÿ”นEverything that has to do with relationship/marriage (including intimacy) has to do with open and honest communication.
๐Ÿ”น First of all where are you in your relationship/marriage, in terms of intimacy?

Is communication an open art or you cautiously keep some things to yourself?
๐Ÿ”นOnce you’ve discovered where you are right now, then write out practical changes that are to be made in order to move from here to there (where you desire to be when it comes to intimacy). Stating clearly who needs to make those changes.
Consider compromise here and sacrifice.
๐Ÿ”น Work on your friendship. Spend time together. Develop hobbies together. Take an interest in what your spouse is doing. If your spouse is overburdened with work, do what you can to help them.
Help each other calm down, de-stress, and spend more time together.

๐Ÿ”น Be there for each other. Spice up your intimacy. Sign up for courses, read books together. Don’t be bored and don’t be boring. It’s easy to get distracted with a cell phone, tablet, or book at bedtime, but cuddling is actually a much better way to end your day and spice up your marriage.
The chemicals that are released when we cuddle with our spouses improve our mood, deepen our connection, and can even help us sleep better๐Ÿ˜. 
What really brings intimacy in relationship

๐Ÿ”นThe Weekly CEO/COO Meeting is something that has been working for my husband and I - this exercise provides you and your spouse with an opportunity to interact as adults (no kids allowed) and without distractions (no phones, tablets, or laptops allowed).
Schedule a non-negotiable chunk of time (30 minutes – 1 hour is a good default) once a week for you and your spouse to talk about how you both are doing, your relationship as a couple, any unfinished arguments or grievances, or any needs that are not being met. 
This will really help both of you connect on a deep level.

You can start the meeting with questions like:
How do you feel about us today? Is there anything you feel incomplete about from this past week that you would like to talk about? How can I make you feel more loved in the coming days?
The answers to these questions should lead you and your spouse in a healthy and productive discussion about your selves and your relationship and will also help build intimacy between you and your spouse.

๐Ÿ’ Finally, be sure to smile, laugh, and touch your partner in reassuring and friendly ways. Again, keep the friendship fire burning.
Make your spouse a huge part of your day, fill them in, be flexible, don't be too uptight.

PRAY for your spouse and PRAY together as often as you can. Holding hands to pray together deepens your intimacy in a way that can't be explained.
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Intimacy (becoming one) is possible. Be more intentional about working on your relationship/marriage - everyday.
Communicate; and see a counsellor if necessary.
Wishing you the very best of LOVE.

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