December 26, 2019

False Standards For Finding A Partner.


Most reason why most relationship shipwrecked is due to fact that:
*Either we don't choose right or we used the wrong criteria to choose.*
In reality there are numbers of people who would be suitable for you to get into relationship with or marry...but a difference in timing or circumstances could have resulted in you getting hooked to one person.
And I will like to remind us that there are lot of suitable partners for you, don't be deceived with only one person is meant or created for me..πŸ˜ƒ
False standards for finding a partner

And more over marrying that suitable person does not mean all others will vanish away..
No matter how devoted we are to that partner, no Matter the love, we will always meet others of the opposite sex who attracts us.. it's normal, natural and inevitable.
It's how we deal with this reality in large measure that determines if we are going to experience success or failure in relationship or marriage..

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*So in finding that mate choice and commitment is paramount.*
There are some criterion/standards most of our relationship are built on but are not supposed to:.. in the world today most relationship are built on
 *physical appearance, social status, intellectual ability and financial ability*

Physical attraction; 
only goes so far, if couples build their relationship on such  a standard, so tell me what happens when physical beauty begins to fade, gorgeous hair turns grey or alopecia/ loss of hair..
Most guys will tell you, I want a lady with boobs, chaiii, so that I will be caressing it and sucking it.. what will happen when those standing alert boobs turn slipper one..🀷🏻‍♂
Or I wnt the athletic abs, wat gonna happen wen he start having botbellyπŸ˜…
If we want a happy, long term relationship, we should look far more beyond physical appearance/ simply physical attraction

About social status; 
majority especially woman want their partner to provide them with everything needed in the society.. so they wanna marry into a good family with moneyπŸ˜…πŸ˜…, a well respected fam and influential individual... all this can change often quickly, all is takes is a downturn in economy or a mistake in a poor investment to knock some down the social ladder.. Go with the purpose inclined with yours and not solely bcos of social status.

Intellectual ability 
Some choose bcos of intellectual ability educational prowess of an individual.. I must marry a doctor or na nurse I must marry... ghen ghen😌.
What course does he study? Is he a graduate?? Is he an engineer? An oil mogul ??.
All this does not depict them giving you the needed attention or care in that marriage.. look beyond this.

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Financial Ability; 
The paramount one is the financial ability.. it's more important.  When you base choosing a partner on his or her financial means.. then you are on your own..*

Can she support me with her money?.. can he take care of me.. these are legitimate questions person in need of a lasting relationship ask.. but such individual must be careful they are prepared for the financial realities of married life. Financial means alone is not basis going into relationship or getting married.

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False standards for finding a partner

*All these a things we look for but they temporary, any of them can change in an instant*
Our primary concern should not be how some look or what he or she does but what kind of person that person is..... appearance are deceiving.

Individual here are born with talents and gifts but character must be developed and cultivated also nurtured over time.
So it's far more important to get to know that person before getting into a serious relationship .. stay with them long enough and the character will begin to show through. Be alert that is outward behaviour is the reflection of his character. Solid character will reflect itself in consistent behaviour, while the poor character will seek to hide behind deceptive words and actions... pay close attention to this*πŸ‘πŸ‘

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Before you can do this, identify the qualities and character that you will hold as standard without compromise and then evaluate the potential candidate or incoming you meet with those standards of yours.πŸ‘ŠπŸ‘Š
If we know the qualities and character that we re looking for in a mate, it will be much easier for us to recognize that person whenever he or she comes along.. and that depends the stay.

In relationship be Conscious, Vigilant and Careful @OTR.

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