May 25, 2020

LIFE BEFORE RELATIONSHIP; All you need to know before going into a Relationship.


We are not new to the word relationship..
Even a Neonate and toddler if asked, can tell you one or more salient things about relationship.

Relationship can made you whole and can destroy one life.. depending on how you handle it and things you know about it in order to stabilise it.
And we all know life itself as what we re on earth to live with.. what our goals and focus should be is all we want to achieve in life.
Life before relationship

So if care is not taken. If one missed it in marriage relationship, then it can affect ones life for ever. And you will agree, the choice of your partner has a long way to go, in you also making it in life.
But this days.. majority of youth or people are not even after the productive life of a thing... all they think or want is just the relationship, some think since I'm old enough or I'm done with secondary school.. I can date, I can have a lover and things should start from there.

The priority of an individual is productive life first, getting to know your goal and passion. Know who you are first, what are your weaknesses and your strengths, your personality and your temperament, your zodiac signs and lot more.
Although falling in love is easy, perhaps too easy, relationships take work.

A lot of work. It's nice to think that you can sail through them with the same ease that you sailed through the falling in love process.

There is some very important groundwork you should lay before getting into a relationship with someone,"

In other words, there are things you want to cover in order to get that groundwork laid down securely. So exactly what should you do before you get into a relationship with someone, that is if you want to make it last?

Read This Article:
Wrong Criteria For Choosing A Partner; Know Them.

From timing and expectations to evaluating your religious identity and leaving the past behind, lot of salient keys to understand before you get into a relationship with someone.

Get your priorities right, your education is far more important, don't risk it for a relationship, because education is part of your life.

Don't be sway away by relationship and fail your preferred courses in school.

Don't allow puberty infatuation lead you astray.
When you get it right first with yourself ,the so-call partner will locate you and the chemistry will flow well than what you even least expect at first.

If you think getting into a relationship will make you “whole” or “complete,” think again.

So many people enter into a relationship thinking the other person will have the ability to make them happy, when in reality happiness starts from within.
If you want a healthy, long-lasting relationship get your self a life that worth emulating first.

Firstly, you must understand the magnitude of a relationship. 

Let me break it down: what it is and what it means for you.
Then you have to do some real soul searching:
πŸ‘Are you ready for the sacrifices,
πŸ‘the energy, and effort.
πŸ‘ Once you’ve done all of that, the last thing you should do is make room in your life for them.
πŸ‘Get rid of the habits, lingering situations, and friends who won’t be conducive to your relationship.

Yes, relationships are cute. You get to face every adversity and tackle every one of life’s puzzles with a partner.

But in turn, that comes with certain compromises to the current life as you know it.

It’s easy to get so enthused about the idea of a relationship that we don’t take into account the shift our actual lives go through.

Our hearts may be ready for a relationship, but that does not always mean our lives are.

Long distance, a demanding workload, school — there are countless oppositions to a relationship that is out of our control.
But it is our responsibility to evaluate our lives in a way to make that responsible decision.

But all this narrowed down to when you have search and gotten yourself right too, your purpose and goal on track, if not fulfilled.
Why try and force a relationship when you know you don’t even have time to commit to owning a time to even your self or fulfillment of life it self?

Furthermore, we have to honestly assess our motivations.

What’s more of a priority to you, her or that work position?

You can really want something with that guy or lady, but will you resent the time it takes away from studying for that CPA exam? Or your work or the your goal finding?

For you to be successful your timing is necessary, so it's not only about the relationship but about the time to balance things.

Yes, going into a relationship with this special person would be the right thing to do. But there are certain factors you need to note before starting out.
Let us give in rapt attention here...πŸ‘πŸ‘

1. Become Who You Want to Be.

Step one is to ask yourself if you are the person you wanted to be growing up. What attitudes do you admire in other people?
What are your personal weaknesses? Make a list if you have to of all the personality traits you would like to have and get to work cultivating them. Practice makes perfect.

Its is called working on one self..that is the first life an individual should know and get
If you dont do this, failing or heartbreak is inevitable in that relationship.

2. Become Self Aware.

How do your actions affect others? What are some things that you need to work on?
Try to do this without being too critical. Outside of a relationship, what kind of person are you? What kind of partner are you when you’re in a relationship?

These questions are important to ask before you enter something serious. Knowing yourself inside and out will only help build a better foundation with your partner. It’s not just about getting to know another person, it’s about getting to know yourself too.

3. Create an Amazing Life

If you aren’t excited about the life you are living why would anyone else want to be a part of it?
Do things that make you happy and get you excited for each new day. Find things to look forward to and share them with the people around you. Make your life looks like enough fun. If you're a boring individual why will you also go for someone boring too, get to equipped that life, read books, attend seminars that that boost you up and help your life..
Life before relationship

4. Pursue Your Passions  and Make Them a Priority

It’s incredibly helpful to already be on the path of pursuing your passions when you enter a relationship.

I count myself among the lucky few who have a clear career path and life goals in mind and am in the process of obtaining them.
But we all know that life doesn’t necessarily work that way. Whether you are in the midst of working towards your goals, or just discovering what they are, or just pursue them on the side for personal gratification, whatever makes you tick should not be pushed aside when you enter a relationship, or at any point during the course of it.

When the “we” mentality starts to take over it’s easy to put your passions, desires, and dreams, on hold. Don’t!

It’s completely doable to find a healthy balance. Whatever you were passionate about before you entered your relationship is still there, having a partner just adds an amazing person to your corner to cheer you on. And, if they don’t support your dreams and passions, they are not worth your time.

A Must Read;
How To Resolve Difficult Issues With Your Partner.

5. Inclined with passion is Goals.
It’s not enough to know what your goals are. You’ll want to have an actionable plan when it comes to achieving them. The right partner will help you achieve those goals, but you knowing those goals is the pivotal thing my dear.

Sometimes your aspirations can get lost in the mix of a new relationship if care is not taken.

6. Leave the Past in the Past or check your baggage

Everyone has had things happen to them that they would rather forget, but not everyone has baggage. Memories only become baggage if you dwell on them and refuse to move on.

What are you holding onto? How does it affect your ability to love and be loved? The common saying, “check your baggage at the door” is often easier said than done.

Your past traumas, experiences, and relationships absolutely affect your current one. Healing isn’t linear, and even if you know how these experiences affect you, sometimes it’s still difficult to leave them out of your current equation.

Learn to let go of the people who are no longer in your life and forget the ones who let you down. Move on and set your sights on the horizon. Move on, don't look at the family past, or how your parents relationship ended or not glowing or if it's about someone close by.

Remember we all got different journeys and life. Your life is different, so also is your relationship life.

7. Get Organized.

When you feel like you are in control of your life you will be more confident and more attractive. Organize everything. Be self confident, bold and courageous. Take care of yourself and look cute and lovely. If you get little apartment, make them look neat and dope, the little things or clothes you get, make them ironed and look gorgeous.

Trim down your friends list too. Those who are not productive to your life, let them go.

No one wants to be in a relationship with a panicky scatterbrain and dull individual, spice your speech up and things about you. Get it together, man/woman.

8. Learn to Accept Other People
One of the toughest things you learn in life is that other people don’t exist to satisfy your expectations of them. Accept other people for who they are and learn to embrace their flaws.

A good relationship is one where both people can feel comfortable and at home. Judging people is a great way to get them headed for the door.

9.Timing to go into relationship.  
Be convince enough to, discern wisely, get to know that person.

Have you attained something reasonable? What are the things that relationship will fetch you, and what are the things you're ready to give too.? Dont just go into relationship because waoo, she has boobs, chaiii ukwu, or I love the beard gengs guy.. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
Also on Time
Relationships take time. Getting to know someone takes time. If you are in the middle of a college degree and working part-time, or if you are in the midst of a strenuous career, you might not have the extra hours to dedicate to getting to know someone.

This may well be one of the most important factors in letting someone into your life.

This point please πŸ•ΊπŸ•Ί

10.Improve Your Communication Skills.

Another skill that benefits all aspects of your life. Sometimes relationships are awkward and you have conversations that leave you wanting to open mouth anywhere else than that moment.

Being able to communicate your wants, needs, and what can be improved are the building blocks of a healthy, lasting relationship. Lack of communication creates rifts of misunderstanding and sometimes puts your wants and needs on the back burner.

Being able to articulate clearly what exactly you mean is an admirable trait, and will create a strong foundation to any relationship, not just romantic.

So before I go..
Brother and sister in the Lord.πŸ˜‚Lovers of boo and bae.
Build yourself a solid foundation that will attract life and souls, have self grooming, let those vision and purpose, dreams be on your map. Start a work on them.

Don't let anyone sway you away with I love you, I love you thing.. ask some salient questions on dates, get yourself some reasonable standards and principles so when the right person cross your path. You will know them..

In Relationship be Careful, Watchful and Vigilant @OTR
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  1. Thank you so much for this. At least, I just got a stronger hold on my thought and additional tips too.

  2. This is a very beautiful well laid salient write-up, bears grace in it.
    Keep doing what you do sir.


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