September 4, 2020


Things Men Value In A Women More Than The Lovely Look.

There is nobody denying the value of looks, appearances, and aesthetics in this modern age especially when it comes to men. It’s practically common knowledge that men are known to be very aesthetic-driven creatures. They thrive on aesthetic pleasures in a very commercialized media-heavy world.

That’s why a lot of women who are considered to be pretty and beautiful may have an easier time at landing men and finding relationships. 

Things men value in a woman more than the lovely look

However, MAINTAINING a relationship is another story entirely. Yes, good looks can catch the attention of men, but being able to maintain whatever connection and bond you have with them is trickier. It’s going to take a lot more than just good looks to keep your man in love with you. 

This one is for the gentlemen, guys who genuinely care for the women they’re with, and their looks don’t mean much to them.

It’s a common misconception about men that they care more about the looks, but let’s be honest, who doesn’t care about the looks at first? We all do. 

But what matters is that we don’t stay too attached to the looks and give other things more important, something that should matter more and do matter more.

So ladies... there are lot of things that men value and loves in women than the physical look.

Let us go with it here...

Their support;

Men love it when their ladies back them up and support them in all of their endeavors. I firmly believe in the saying that behind every successful man, there’s a woman. When your man truly loves you, menial and superficial things go out the window, and what they expect from you is what’s going to matter in the long run.

Giving them all support is an added advantage and an edge my dear, and believe me this go a long way to stabilise relationship.  Even if that man is a born cheat, there will always be consideration and he will be thoughtful if at all he want to go into nasty acts. Because you're a huge backbone. Be his perfect and known fan, and hype woman. 

Guys/men value this and they don't play with ladies with this resilient spirit.

Their Time;

Most men cherish every second spent with their girlfriend because it’s not easy for that woman of yours to take time out of her studies etc. 

But she still takes out an ample amount of time for you so that you never feel like you're being ignored, she will even meet you during her exams also though she still had a lot to study and during hectic work time.

So men cherish every moment she’s with them. Men love it when their women devote their time to them because time is one of the most priceless gifts you can give to someone. As far to the best of my knowledge, women demand for more attention in relationship, so in the same vein attention should also be given to the guys/men.

Be selfless, don't just give him time alone when you need it, also do when he needs. Some men craves more for attention, especially when his love language is Quality time and Service, so you should not just give something less.

Their Trust;

Ladies, men don’t just care about how pretty you are, yes they will compliment you every single day because they love you and they don’t care about your looks. What’s more important is trust.

Most have a rough past with ex girlfriend which likely might be due to cheat or mistrust. so it wasn’t easy for most men to gain your confidence, but If he tries hard, and he finally gained that trust of yours, & finally gained your complete faith and trust in you, this felt like an accomplishment, and it still does. 

So it's more advisable for you to be open, there is no big deal, telling your partner where you are, where you are going and what you're doing, there's no good in it hiding things if really you guys are committed. This build more trust which is a bed rock for all successful marriage relationship.

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Things men value in a woman more than tha lovely look

The food;

Men will be men; food will always be a weakness. Don’t get me wrong; I’m not one of those people who think women should be the ones in the kitchen, no. In marriage relationship, my own ideology is that no gender role, we should equally do things at home together, since you have the capability to.

Even sometimes a guy might try to cook, although he can fail horribly at it if he tries.

But the way ladies cooks is something I admire a lot, I would happily stay home and eat my spouse cooking rather than go out to any fancy restaurant, ladies are fantastic cook and I respect that a lot about them. Men love food; men like women who can make good food, it’s not all about good looks.

When they’re good listeners;

Men admire it when their women actually listen to what they’re saying and don’t just nod their heads without paying attention to the conversation.

Everybody needs someone to talk to, about their day, about their life, about work, so many things happen, and so many events unfold every day, and we all need someone to talk to about it all.

For some men, their day doesn’t feel right unless they call their girlfriend up and tell her how it went, and it makes them feel complete when she pays attention to every word they say.

And to add to this, please ladies, don't bring up unnecessary drama with ease during this time and be sensitive too. A guy who has a stressful day, and maybe he called to talk to you, and in the midst of conversation, something sprout up not too pleasing to you, be sensitive enough to handle this, and during that particular time act like a man and let things slide.

You can't react to every dame talk and situation as it surface, it will eventually toxify the relationship. 

When they’re emotional and appreciative;

I’m the sentimental type, and I love it when a lady gets all emotional about me or our relationship.

Whenever I do something for her, she should gets these emotional moments when she goes on and on about how much I do for her, and appreciate it even if it's the little, in same vein appreciate little effort. 

Men cherish her emotions more than her looks. Men love it when a woman can be expressive about her feelings ultimately and be grateful for every effort in the same.

Their Ambitions;

If a guy truly loves you, he’ll always pay a lot of attention to your goals, purpose and objectives. He won’t just be flattered by your looks, he will love you for who you hope to be one day, for what you hope to accomplish one day, he will love you for all of your hopes and dreams, and he will try his best to help you reach those goals with all of his heart and soul.

But you see those guys that don't care or "sarewagba guys". They don't bloody care what you have to offer self talkless of your goal and dreams. They will tell you let us see how it goes. My dear move.

And let me add this, ladies before you go into a relationship, be fulfilling. Some even don't have a goal and dream and they are in relationship, burden added.. Chuckles.

Some ladies when you ask them about their goal, she will go blank and will tell you I don't know. A guy who truly loves you will always look up to things that will also be beneficial and appealing to their own dreams and goal. And you too don't say "yes I do" to a guy who lacks foresight and dream. I mean what the fuck is that.

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When they’re Independent;

I love it when a woman is self-sufficient and independent. A lot of people I know feel insecure about this, but I am proud of this one fact; it’s a massive turn-on for me when a woman is successful in what she’s doing when she’s ambitious when she wants to keep moving forward and keeps accomplishing her goals.

Majority of men will be proud to see their girlfriend doing the same, and when they see her talk about work, they feel a sudden spark of pride within them, especially me.

To add to this, men cherish and value women with skills, get a skill darling. I know you're a doctor and a lawyer, but add some acquisitions skills. Design, copywriting, marketing, makeup et al. Add something to that job or schooling of yours. Good Men love to see you doing this and they will even encourage you to do more, because it's going to add value to you both in future.

Don't look too needy and like a saddist all time. 

Lastly please. It not only makes any woman more attractive but also makes men feel better about themselves. 

Please look good dear. Being Playfulness too, Sometimes it's very important to stop being serious and just relax. Being real and natural and kind too. A real woman will never try to look like someone else or act in an unnatural way, and men loves that.

So lovers,

Truthfully speaking, as the relationship gets deeper and deeper, the looks just matter less and less. When couples stay together for years or even decades, it won’t matter so much what they look like to each other anymore.

The biggest factor in really establishing, building, and maintaining a strong emotional connection with another person is with the personality.

Yes, you can gain a man’s attention with your impeccable good looks. But you can only make a man really fall in love with you with your character, attitude, and your overall personality. So get them please. 

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  1. So lovely.. It will sure go a long way ... Well done Sir

  2. What a nice piece we have here! I have been blessed. Thanks, Timmy.


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